Childhood...affect parenting skills?

I really think it depends on the person. My parents were incredibly abusive and like you, I am determined that my children will never spend one moment feeling the way I did as a child. We are very close and I would protect them with my own life. They are healthy, well adjusted, happy go lucky kids and I want it to stay that way. They need the chance to just be kids. My sister, on the other hand, couldn't handle parenthood, much like my mother and became abusive. She finally ended up just giving her children away to her in-laws and hasn't seen them in five years. Not because she can't but because she doesn't care to. We come from the same abusive situation and we are night and day when it comes to motherhood. I truly believe it depends on the person.

i think your childhood does effect how you raise your children. I don't have any children but i know that when i do, there are several things i have learnt from the way my parents brought me up that i will make sure i do or not do. Me and my partner both had very different up bringings and because of that both have learnt differnt things which together we hope we be able to bring up our children happily. I have always said i never want my children to feel the way i did growing and be put in the poisitons that i was, because of that i am aware how my behaiour will impact them and therefore love them unconditionally and support them no matter what.

yes, my mother left us when she and my father got divorced, she could not take care of us. my father did a wonderful job. i love my kids like you yours. i give them all they need and some. i try not to make the same mistakes she did. but i do love her.