Im very concerned about my friend. Should I say something?
@cockadoodledoo (337)
Australia
March 24, 2007 9:38pm CST
Ok!! So I have this friend that has been acting very strange over the past 12 months since she bought a dozen chooks. These chooks are all like new born babies to her and this is where the problem is. When it rains she lets them get all dirty then brings them inside and washes them then dries them with the blower. During the week, I got an invite to the chooks birthday party because they are turning 1. What am I supposed to get them? A bag of chook food? She is supplying a morning tea of egg sandwiches and party hats. Please Help? Should i tell her to grow up?
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Wow, it really sounds like this friend needs serious help. It sounds like she is happy with a sporty husband and kids. Maybe there is still something missing in her life. I would be very careful with what you say to your friend. You don't want to hurt her feelings.
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Oh that is really bad, I don't know how you can even go around there when it is like that.
@cockadoodledoo (337)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Her husband just shakes his head.
I try not to laugh when I visit her because I usually have to pick up the chook from the lounge just to sit down or when I use the toilet, I have to take the chook off of the lid just to sit.
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@cockadoodledoo (337)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Her sporty husband reckons they are xmas lunch this year. My friends says she will move with the chooks if he says it again. I guess my friend doesnt really care what other people think because she has always got some chook poo on her bottom from sitting on the chairs where the chooks have pooped. I do mention it to her, but then again, there is chook poo everywhere.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Mar 07
I do not have any idea what chooks are, however, it sounds like your friend may be lonely or longing for children or something. Whatever, the case, I would never tell my friend to grow up if she were doing something that I thought were immature.
Just because you see it that way, doesn't mean that she will. At the least you may hurt her feelings, at the most you may lose a friend. I would ask her what need this satisfies and then I would listen and be supportive.
@cockadoodledoo (337)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
I dont know why she would be lonely, she has a real sporty husband and 4 children that are all great. When I go to her house, one of the kids will come out the front and tell me that mum has gone mad, look what she is doing. Maybe I just wont say anything but Im worried what others will think of her now that they have got invitations to the chook party too.
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@rainbow (6761)
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25 Mar 07
Bless her, does you friend have children, maybe the chooks are her babies and she lavishs all her maternal love onto them.
I don't think telling her to grow up is quite the right way to do it as she may be covering a deep emotional need with the chickens, although maybe you could talk to her, carefully.
The chickens are obviously well cared for which is a good thing and she's not hurting anyone so why worry. Maybe she sees it as a bit of fun and she obviously loves her pets a lot. Why not use their birthday as an excuse to have your pals round for coffee, it's lihthearted fun after all.
Maybe you could get a new feeder, some food or towels forwhen they have played in the rain, I'm sure if you join into the spirit of the thing you will have lots of innocent fun.
@cockadoodledoo (337)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
A chook is a chicken. You know, the cluck cluck ones with feathers that lay eggs.
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Mar 07
Yikes, better slowly try to convince her to grow up. maybe she doesnt have children to care thats why she is acting like this.
@cockadoodledoo (337)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Thats just it. She does have kids and I thought she was very mature until about a year ago when she got the chooks (cluck cluck, they have feathers and lay eggs). They all have names too.
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