Complicated people-happy or sad childhood?

I disagree on some points. I know plenty of complicated adults, who had it very easy growing up. They had everything handed to them, and expect it to happen the same way, so in those instances, it was the absence of hardships that led to their demise. I had a rough childhood (some may have even called it disturbing) I grew up very poor, and faced many difficult things growing up. But I doubt I would ever be considered complicated. I overcame the difficulties in my life, by the grace of God, and am a much better person for it. I think it really just depends on the person. Some people are able to cope with whatever life throws them, and turn it around, other people get caught up in self pity, and allow their circumstances to govern their lives. SO, to say that your environment growing up is an indication of your future successes is a cop out for many, and then for parents out there it is a constant source of worry. I'm not denying that it does affect people, for I would not be nearly as strong as I am without having to overcome the obstacles I have in my life, but I don't think that it's a guarantee either that just because you have had a rough/troublesome past or childhood that you will continue down that path.

yes i am sure that a every person should have a secure and loving childhood but i do not agree that all complicated adults had a very rough and disturbing childhood. i know that i am a very complicated person and it has his bad sides and the good sides i did grow up in a very health carying family environment and i do think that we can not be sure what will be in the future it is not always due to a poor and difficult environment and it sure is not always good or bad white or black..it is a little bit more complicated:)

My Sweetheart and I were discussing that tonight. We both learned much from our environments, from growing up, and from the experience we gained once we were out on our own. Our first examples of EVERYTHING came from our parents, and we had to choose to either follow/live by/accept (whichever words you want to use) the good ones, and avoid the bad ones. No one is perfect. Some people do better at this than others. Also, some people are presented with more bad examples than good ones, and vice versa. Every situation is different.