Does friends with benefits really work?

I have never been in a relationship like this but I don't think that it could work. I feel that if you are intimate with someone it is hard to just be friends with them. One of the two will get hurt and it isn't worth losing a good friend over something like that.

It's never worked for me. Maybe I'm too much of a girl, but if I'm really intimate with someone, then I fall for them hard...even if I try to lie to myself and convince myself that I'm not. However, if I'm just messing around with someone (you know, not fully doing the deed), then I think it's much easier to have friends with benefits. Granted, it seems like in this situation, the guy tends to fall harder than I do. Dating is just entirely too complicated. Sometimes I'm jealous of my married friends. Their lives are much more boring...but also much less drama-filled than mine!

I have never been in a situation where it works. I always became attached or he did, just like you stated. Its really hard to be intimate with someone for quite a while, and have no feelings at all. I was with a guy, who I feel in love with, and we were friends with benfits for over a year...it didnt work. I became an emotional wreck.