ADOPTION?
By heartonfire
@heartonfire (4119)
Denmark
21 responses
@euniceeleanor (5966)
• Singapore
20 Nov 06
if i couldnt give birth to a child, i might consider adoption. intially when we first discussed about this question, my bf insisted on adoption...cos he said there's a lot of poor child who need love and family warmth..my argument? i will feel like an incomplete woman without being able to go through the process of giving birth ;0)
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
24 Nov 06
i was thinking about the same thing..maybe i would adopt a chold but first i wanna know the feeling of giving birth to my own..it must be unique:)
@sllyrbtvw (94)
• United States
20 Nov 06
I know what you mean. I would like to have a biological child prior to adopting if possible.
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@justiman (428)
• United States
24 Nov 06
I have two best friends and they are both adopted. They both think of thier parents like I think of my parents. Birthing a child is only one part of being a parent, the real work comes after that. One of them adopted a little girl when she was 14 months old and then they had 2 others. There is absolutely NO DIFFERENCE in the way any of them feel for each other. She is now 16. Being a mom or a dad is something you earn, not something you become by giving birth.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
24 Nov 06
that is very true..there are mothers who dump their babies after the birth..that can not be called a mother..and there are people who struggle to have a child and they can't so they adopt one...those are the real parents
@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
24 Nov 06
I'm against adoption; It makes the children messed up when they become older and start asking for there biological parents. Unless both parents or family members or relatives aren't around then there is no choice to adopt.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
24 Nov 06
you are right on one hand,but think that even if he will not be adopted,he will still start asking questions in time and he will not understand many things..also when he will be 18 he will have to start his own life as the shelter only keeps minor in care..and that will also be hard for him,as he will not have the emotional and even financial stability to do so..when taken from a family since little,he will get a proper education,he will get a stability..and things will be much easier..i have seen cases on tv about adopted kids...they grew up happy,they did have the curiosity to search for their natural parents but the ones that he considers his parents and that he loves most is his addoptive ones,and that's the truth
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
20 Nov 06
I've had fertility problems and we were just about to adopt an overseas child when I managed to become pregnant. So yes I would adopt. I htink once you look after a child for some time, it becomes your own. All children deserve to have a happy and loving home.
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@Silverrose988 (47)
• United States
20 Nov 06
I guess for me it would have to depend. If given the chance as in had the money. I proabaly would. I would deffently adopt if it was say something happended to a friend and she asked me to adopt her kids.
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@limcyjain (3516)
• India
20 Nov 06
i dont think so because i think i wont be able to give her that love which children deserve from parents.
@braveheartpt (3037)
• Portugal
17 Nov 06
If I have monetary conditions to help some child, I would. Even having a child. We all must help others.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Nov 06
i know,but at least at first u still have that strange feeling that it's not yours...i think..
@sllyrbtvw (94)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Yes, I would adopt a child. There are many children out there that are in need of homes. I work with someone who adopted a baby, and she is now 6 years old. If she was not adopted, who knows what her life would be like. She has five siblings that have all been adopted out as well.
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
21 Nov 06
I would love to adopt when I am ready for a family of course, which is going to be quite a while from now. I think the idea of adopting is wonderful. You are giving a child a chance at a good life, something they may not have without you. Its a wonderful way to make an impact on someone's life and light up your own.
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
21 Nov 06
I would love to adopt when I am ready for a family of course, which is going to be quite a while from now. I think the idea of adopting is wonderful. You are giving a child a chance at a good life, something they may not have without you. Its a wonderful way to make an impact on someone's life and light up your own.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
21 Nov 06
yes,but on the other hand...it is still a feeling that you don't know where that child came from...i don't know,i thought about it many times as an idea..i hope i have my own kids of course...but i was thinking if i would adopt one...truely i don't know...a child is not a cat that you take home and give him love...it has a big importance how you raise him..
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
24 Nov 06
well,in many cases that's what you do..adopting a child menas saving him from a confused life..
@pumpkinjam (8769)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 06
If I couldn't have a child of my own and I really wanted one then yes I would think about adopting. Now I wouldn't because I have two children of my own and I don't think I could cope with any more! Apart from that, I don't think it would be fair to bring an adopted child into a young family.
@romisaz (74)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 06
Adoption had a lot of meaning,its just not for human but you can use at for pet's, plant and etc.I had my own family ( wife and cute little boy )and if I can I want to adopt 1 more child, I'm proud of it.
@Island_Geko (3759)
• Canada
20 Nov 06
I would rather adopt that to give birth...there are way to many children out there who need a family to love and support them
