Would you RATHER a DOCTOR told you you were DYING or would you RATHER not know??

Like you, my feelings are mixed on this. I think I'm going to have to go with, I'd rather know the truth though. As difficult as it would be to find something like that out, I would want to be able to make sure my children were taken care of, that I said goodbye to those I love, that I didn't take one more moment for granted... I just wouldn't want to leave anything too undone.

I would rather like the doctor to inform me and only me in any such conditions so that atleast I may be able to fufill some important tasks that need to be done before I bid adeiu to the world. I will like to know cause then I will try and give all the happiness before I go cause I like seeing my folks and my loved ones happy. Also that if I know that I am dying I will work to and try to live. Life is very precious to me and so are my loved ones so I will definitly spend the rest of my life left in making them happy and proud and that way I may even die happy. Any ways till you can, JUST LIVE IT. Take Care May GOD Bless YOU

I want to be told, by all means. I have been through a couple or three close family deaths, and it is better knowing.

i really would not want to know, id rather just fade away, blessed be. I would rather live each day as if it is my last because one day it surely will be

i would definately want to know because I would have some many things that i would want to do before i die. One being to make sure my son is going to be taken care of, and to make sure it is writing that he gets to spend time with my family because he would go to his stupid father. Next I would want to make sure i got to see my whole family before i passed away.

As depressing as it sounds and I really don't want to think about it I would want to know if I was dying. I would want to spend that time with my loved ones as much as possible and make sure all necessary arrangements were made - I know, should do that now anyway but just don't seem to think that much about it.

I think that I would prefer to be made aware of such a situation. It may be a traumatic experience, but at least I would be in the position to make the best of the time remaining. I realise that we should always make the best of what time we have left, but we also have to ensure that we are prepared for the future. Knowing that the future was a very limited time I would not waste any more by working in order to leave more money behind, instead I would spend some of what I have already saved.

I would rather have the doctor tell me I was dying. I would probably change some things that I would do.

I'd prefer to know, as I have kids there is so much I'd have to sort out, We have a lot of things sorted if one or both of us was to die suddenly but I'm sure there would be things I like to say to certain people, have plans for help for my partner with the kids etc.

I would want to know. That way I would have time to get back to the States and visit family and friends one last time. I would want to spend more time with my hubby. I would also like for us to travel get to see all the places that my hubby wants to take me to. It would give us quality time.

I would want to know.

i'd rather not know.they've proven people sometimes will go downhill faster if they are told. i'd rather go in my sleep one night unaware. when i started feeling bad i'd at least get a will done just in case.

I would prefer to know that fact because i used to do every thing at its deathline and in this case i would have lot of things to do !!!!

Thats a hard question to answer to be honest. In some ways I would like to know if I was dying but then in other ways I wouldn't want to know. I suppose If I knew I would just make the most of my time left, spend all my money lol. I would also book a nice holiday. But then on the other hand, If I knew I was dying I don't know if I would do anything apart from drink and try to not think. It would be really hard. I hope i'm never in that situation.I would be angry if my doctor didn't tell me though and yes I agree about tying up loose ends. Its a very hard question to answer.

if i am too sick and that i have a terminal illness, i'd rather know how much time is there left for me in this world. atleast, i can patch up things with someone i felt bad about, mend someone's broken heart and just do good and be happy with my loved ones for the remaining days of my life.

i wud want to know my fate

I would want to know if I were dying. There are several reasons for this. The first reason would be to make sure that the people I loved, knew it. The second would be because I would want to tie up all the loose ends that have accumulated in all the years that I have lived. The third would be that I would want to make sure that my final arrangements reflected my wishes. The last would be because I wanted to look at all of the people that were there when the Doctor told me this so they would know that "Miracles, indeed, do happen" after I have beaten whatever it was that was supposed to have killed me. Does anybody else have any comments? Thank you.

I would definitely want to know, but only if he was 150% sure! I would quit working, go on vacation, spend my money and have some fun. Like in the movies :) I think I would rather know then just go to work day in and day out, and continue saving "for the future", then suddenly just get too sick one day to do anything.

I think I would want to know so I can better prepare myself and my family.

I myself would want to know, i'd want to make the most of the time i had and make arrangements so that no burdens wheres left for my loved ones. its a tough question and one i have to regulary deal with within my work. Working within a hospital environment sadly come across this. Although i'm not a doctor so its not my respobsibility to break the bad news i do have to support the family when they make decisions like this. Sometimes the person themsleves don't want to know but the family does... do you tell the family but not the person themselves? But then you can't tell the family without the persons permission, so its a bit of a circle. Thing is if you don't want to know but others know (even if thats only professionals) bad communication can often mean people don't realise you don't know and things slip out. So its just easier from the start to know exactly whats going on and then you can plan accordingly. I don't understand why people don't want to know, yeah i can understand its not nice knowing your going to be ill and die in such a horrible way but on the other side i'd want to know if i didn't long so i could treasure time with my family. I'd want to know if there was a chance i'd never see them again.