Is it ok to have a new relationship right away after breaking up yesterday?
By aziralegna
@aziralegna (8)
Philippines
March 25, 2007 8:39pm CST
Well..in my case, it's he who dumped me and got someone right away.It hurts a lot.I tried to find someone else.But my mom advised me not to because according to her it is not the right solution to a broken relationship...there are a lot of ways to move on...not just getting yourself in another struggle in a different relationship...it's gonna end up the same...she said that there should be self realization in every break up that you experience...for you to be able to give time for yourself to think what went wrong or what you did or what you did not..I belived my mom was right that time..so here I am...Single but now I know what I want and ready to go for it!!!!:)
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5 responses
@michaelr87 (21)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
I have to say that it may be necessary to wait before starting a new relationship. If you start to early it may be just an emotional rebound as an attempt to overcome the pain of the breakup. If you wait, a month for example, that gives time to grieve the breakup and settle any emotional issues from the breakup before starting into a new relationship. Believe me... most guys who would be willing to date a girl immediately after she broke up are hoping to take advantage of her. Be careful!
@aziralegna (8)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
yeah..ur right...so do u think my ex is worth loving or worth crying?...do u think he treasured our 11 months together?
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@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
If he had another girl the next day, he hadherbefore he split with you. However, your mother was right, no sense in jumping right into another relationship out of spite. Waiting a few months is a good thing because it gives you a chance to see what is out there and find someone better, smarter and more caring that the old boyfriend.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
20 Sep 07
Hey, when it's over, it's over. It will be over the next day, and it will be over 10 years from that day. It is over when it is over. When you are once again single, I would say GO FOR IT!! If the relationship was still on it would be wrong, but a breakup is a breakup.
@im2good4u (566)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
If your BF already has someone then most probably that he already dated that girl prior to your breakup, no offense. and regarding on what to do next i believed its best to listen to your mother, mothers knows best. and dont rush getting another man, you're still young, enjoy yourself then you'll just know it when the time comes.
@anjigs04 (37)
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
Hi! We have a saying that it is better to have love and lost than not to have loved at all. Now, if you think having a new relationship would solve your problem and ease up the pain, your on the wrong track. Rebound wont solve your broken heart. Most of all it would be unfair on the other guy. Your not really loving him but just merely a diversion for you to forget the past. The best thing to do here is to keep yourself busy. I know it will be hard for you to stand up and think as if nothing has happened. But the good thing about it, is that you`ll learn on your experience and will be stronger next time. Dont let the heart do the thinking, use your brain as well. Peace!!
