If you knew your friend was cheating, would you tell their spouse?
By toolfan
@toolfan (305)
United States
March 25, 2007 8:53pm CST
I have a friend that tells me sometimes when he cheats on his wife. We are all good friends, but I do not know his wife that well. I used to be great friends with this guy, but lately I have found it hard to be friends with him as I do not respect him. If you knew that this was happening, would you tell the spouse? This is such a fine line and I feel like I should not get involved. Yet, at the same time, I would want to know if someone knew my wife was adultrous. What would you do in this case...especially since they have kids?
4 responses
@proudmammabear (556)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
I definately would tell! If it were me I would want to know as soon as possible, so I could get the heck out of there. It is worse because they have kids, what happens if he brings home a STD, and passes that to his wife? His kids? I think that it is an akward position to be in, but I think that she has the right to know, regardless of the fact that he will be angry with you. I think she should be aware of the potential risks to her and the children. What if the kids grow up seeing this kind of behavior, kids are smart, what if they put two and two together as they are growing, and figure out that the way their dad is is a good thing because that is how it has always been, and then they grow up to be cheaters as well... Good Luck and God Bless With YOUR choice
@angelOFdemise (100)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
If I was in your case, I would definitely try to educate that friend of yours regarding the nature and concept of adultery. And, I'd inform his wife about it. I just can't stand tolerating people who are getting away with their wrong doings.
@luvreen (168)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Tell your friend that's the biggest mistake in his life and try to encourage him to stop and remind him about the innocent kids which will be most affected in the end if he doesn't listen to you it's up to him.At least youre a real friend who tells him that he is wrong and remind him as far as you can.
@shenzhouplaza (1676)
• China
26 Mar 07
No, definitely not. I will talk with my friends that it is not good for hisor her family. The result of cheating is very serious.Most often itwill lead to big trouble. If he or she takes my advice, that is ok. If he or she does not take my advice. I can not help. I still treasure pur friendship.
@aengeLusz (81)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
frankly no. because it's their problem and you as a friend and you still want them to be together has to stay out of it... and if you feel guilt of not saying it then i suggest try to say it to the one who cheats not to the spouse being cheated. encourage him open up about the CHEATING stuff to the cheated spouse...
