My son saw his dad dressed as a woman!! Advice needed urgent!!

How awful! I'm not judging the character of your ex, I don't know how he feels, but his actions were very wrong. He should have discussed this with you beforehand, made a plan with you on how to help your son make this adjustment, and been willing to "tone it down" around your son because of the autism. I'm glad you are getting your son some counseling, I hope it helps. Is family counseling available? Having all three of you together to discuss it might help also. I think you should talk to your ex (calmly) and explain how this sudden change negatively affected your son. Maybe he will be willing to dress like a man for weekends with your son for your son's sake. If he won't I would seriously consider not allowing him to see his father for now. Yes, your husband has a right to live his life however he wants to but your son's well being (especially with the added complication of autism) needs to be the priority. (By the way I didn't mean autism was a "complication" in a bad way, I just couldn't think of the right word, I hope you understand what I meant)

I would get him to a counsler real soon. Try to talk to him about and explain it to him. Let him ask any questions that he needs. This was really uncalled for by your x. Why couldn't he talk to you first and you both could have sat your son down. Atleast it would have been less of a shock. I am so sorry that your x is irresponsible. He should have never done that.

oh my goodness! i would be very upset. i mean he is a grown man and can do whatever he wants. but he should have talk to you first about doing this in front of your son. i think that at 12 he still may be a little to young to really understand what it means to see his father dressed alike a woma.

I feel very sorry for your son, his father should not have done that to him, especially as he is autistic. By the sounds of it, your son only sees him on weekends, so it would have been better for the father to speak to you first and asked you if you thought your son would react badly or not. That is a big thing for any child to take in. I just hope the kids at school don't find out because that will make it even harder on him. It was probably a big shock for you too. I hope the counselling helps. Good luck!

You can perhaps tell your son that there is nothing wrong for a man to dress like a woman. It is probably your best chance to teach your son about gender equality, personal rights, freedom of expression and most of all, unconditional love. I would like to know though, why exactly is your husband dressed like a woman? Anyway, your son is 12. He is old enough to understand differences and to be taught against prejudicism. Good luck though :)