Do You Tell Your Grown Children(living in your home)What To Do?

My children are not completely grown but I do have teenagers and even now I don't feel I have the right to tell them who they can see or who they can talk to on the phone . They have their own lives to live and I have to trust that I have done a good job in raising them to be able to respect their wishes and allow them to make their own decisions in life .

My parents are used to dominate anybody who comes in their life. We childern loved them but they didn't realized it's spoiling our lives.Now, all three of us doesn't want to stay at home and are far from home . Nobody wants to go back to home even for holidays as we feel we haven't liberty to even speak in front of them. I'm going to give my child freedom on his 8th birthday to express and do things the way he/she likes. I will suggest him/her whether the path is wrong or right but can't force them to walk on it.

I have only one grown son left at home and I have long since stopped telling him what or what not he should do. I treat him as an adult and he makes his own decisions. I must admit that they are always good sensible decisions and I never have any cause for complaint.

First off I feel if the child is truly grown than they have no business living at home. But while they are home they need to follow rules put before them just as if they did when they were younger. If they want the benifits that come from a free roof over their heads the least they can do is follow the rules made by the owners of the house. It is not an infringement or abuse of power it is out of respect that the child being grown or not bestow to their parents. Parents worry about their children and this does not stop because of age. Best wishes

I haven't been in this situation but I did have my older sister staying in my house for a couple of years, and befoe that time we did discuss a set of rules. These more involved bills, money, cleaning etc but did also go into what times visitors could come and times for incomming phone calls - this was just so visitors and calls didn't happen either late at night or very early in the morning.