Marriage...Pls help

Has the husband cheated on her? In the bible it says the only reason for divorce is fornication. Has he hit her? Is she a believer in God? If so she should fast and pray and ask God to direct her. I will be in agreement with her in prayer. May the Lord Bless and Keep You

no,,,not for kids...we should not waste our life thinking abt kids in this situations...my friend is facing the same problem...she is got 2 kids...and her husband is good for nothing..watever she earns..he takes and doent care for her or kids...at the time of school fees i have seen her struggling liek anything...but wen she takes a decision to divoce...her parents r not letting her saying her kids will suffer at their time of marriage if their mom is a divocee...i just cant understand them..she id just 28 yrs..y should she suffer so much at this age for her kids...once wen kids grows up i feel they will just go their own way and she is not going to have a life... y these things happen to gals always....

Marriage is 4 living together in happy/sorrow situations. Children are not the own property of her. It is shared property. Looks she had will power to stay from him. If the relation really bothers her, want to stay with her children separetely until his realisation is good. But the thought of realisation from him is not admisable at any situation in future, she can be advised to start her second life at the earliest with the help of friend like you. This may be with children or without children as per your friends interest and capacity. If he dares so the world will give better than the earlier. Past is a lesson to be taken care of.

I say she should get out, I did and it was the best thing that happened to me. The kids should not see the parents so unhappy like that and fighting w/ each other in front of the kids.

Hell no if you are not happy you move, kids will always be there.Dont make your kids suffer because you are always fighting or not happy.

A friend of mine stayed in her marriage for her kids, she said that it was the worst mistake of her life. Her kids are very vindictive and mean towards her now. Your friend just needs to follow her heart. Best of luck

Should stay for the sake of the kids.

Never stay in a marriage fro the children..they are suffering too,

It's harder on children to be with parents that are not happy, or that fight. They see that... Or even if they can't see it, they feel it. They feel the tention. If she is not happy then she should leave. And the easiest thing to do would be to sit the children down and just explain. Let them know things might get rough but the love will always be there.

hmmm...good discussion!!!

There are other alternatives here rather than just calling it quits. Have she or they tried counseling? Have they even tried talking the problems out CALMLY. We can't change our spouse, but we can change ourselves. We can change the way we view our circumstances too.

yes,but to less

It's much more stress on the children if the situation is bad. A seperation or divorce can be stressful on children but there are more ways to alleviate that than to try not to keep them in an imotional war zone when there is constant fighting around them.

Depends, does he act that way infront of the kids. Are the kids being treated the same. If he is a good father maybe, but if he isn't even that definetly get out. A friend of mines parents stayed together for him. His mom slept in the bedroom and his father in the living room all his life. They didn't fight, but the went happy either. It affected him enough to never want to get married or have kids, at least he says that's why. How mean is he?

Its very hard to tell leave or not leave in the situation like that cause that involved the kids future..to stay means have to sacrifice for the belove kids and not to stay means to sacrifice the kids happiness or maybe thier future....its really not going to be easy for her....I pitty her and at the samet ime I wish her good luck!

You shouldn't stay with someone just because you have kids. If thing's are that bad, then she should get out before someone gets hurt.

My opinion to your friend's problem is that she should let it go. She will be doing more damage to her kids if they see how her husband treats her. In god's eyes SHE WILL not be punished because she is leaving for her safety. The man is abusive and god does not accept that. Her kids will understand later on about the situation. So tell her to leave her husband for her children.

No, she should not stay in a marriage just for the sake of her children, especially if her husband is mean to her. Does she want her children to see their dad being mean to her? I doubt it! What is that teaching the kids? That it's ok for a man to be mean to a woman and she should just take it? It may be hard at first, but eventually the kids will understand.

I think it makes it harder on children if they live with parents who do not get on, children can sense these things and it iwll make their home life unhappy.

i would try cousenling first and if that doesnt work, get out of it, it would be better for the children to be raised in a loving, nurturing home, with no negativity or abuse.