What to Do?

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I am in somewhat of a unique position in that my mom and stepmother arevery good friends. Overall, I have no problem with this, and I think it's a good thing. The one problem that I have with their relationship is that if one of them has a problem with me, of any sort, instead of coming to me about it, they go and tattle to the other person. This is more my stepmothers doing. I've asked her to come to me instead of acting like a two year old and tattling to my mother (she does this with my father as well) and she refuses to just come out and say she has a problem with something I'm doing. I want to have a good relationship with my stepmom, but this makes it very difficult. Today she was upset that I hadn't done my wash, but instead of saying something to me about it she waited until I left and called my mom. My mom had some work for me to do to earn some money, and she refused to let me do it until my wash was done. It doesn't matter that my stepmom was doing wash. I felt like I was being screwed over. I feel like what goes on in my relationship between either of them is not the other ones business. They got together this afternoon to talk about me. What do you think? Is it something that should be between whomever the problem is with, or should it be between everyone? Any opions would be appreciated. Thanks.