Who goes to bed first... you or your spouse?

United States
March 26, 2007 9:15pm CST
My husband falls asleep within seconds of hitting the bed. He goes to bed like clockwork at 10 pm. I, on the other hand have always been a night owl and stay awake til well after 2 am, sometime later than that. I feel so guilty about it that when he goes to bed, i will lay down with him til he falls asleep (which is a few min) then go back to the living room to resume computer work, watch my TIVO'd shows, etc.. Who falls asleep first in your home, you or your husband? Do you feel guilty about not going to bed at the same time like normal families do (or what we grow up to think)
2 responses
Mother May I
@tarheelnancy (1317)
• United States
27 Mar 07
My hubby goes to bed first, always has and probably always will. He is in bed by 9:00 asleep by 9:30. I don't really feel guilty. We've been married almost 10 years and it's "normal" for us. It doesn't bother him at all, I asked.
Ldhoney
@Ldhoney (14)
• United States
27 Mar 07
That's funny that you asked. I did the same with my husband. He said it fine so long as it doesnt effect me getting up in the morning with the babies. But i know he doesnt like it, which is why i probably feel quilty.
mnor49
@mnor49 (4)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 07
You should go to bed together and do whatever is necesssary. Your habit of going to bed late is not to your advantage in the long run. Change this habit. It definitely not fair to both of you. This will eventually lead to estrangement...its ok if you are prepared it. It can be traumatic for you. Surely in the early part of your marriage life you went to bed early and together. Need to ponder over the matter seriously.