How would you know if he's cheating on you???

Dear Sarah....first of all sympathies to you....as i can feeel that u hav such a sincere feelings for your boy friend....well Sarah...the situation which u hav described shows that your bf is cheating with you and now u hav to make a decision that whether you can leave him or want to convince him that Come Back.....i will recommend you to leave him...as he is already avoiding your calls....!

what are the updates of your matter sara?

First, don't jump to conclusions. It could be nothing at all or it could be something. I'd trust your gut. If you feel, deep down that something is wrong, and felt that way before you looked at his myspace and saw what you did, then maybe you should look into things. If his behavior has changed a lot lately, and he's not spending as much time with you as he did before, then maybe something might be going on. Talk to him, and talk to others first.

Dear Sarah, It seems to me that ur bf is changed his interest, he would have got a better gf than u. Now pl. talk over this matter and confirm he still likes u or else u can find somebody else. sk107

Better end your relationship with him he's a two timer.He's unfaithful.I've been in that situation before.It really hurts but you have to let him go because its very unfair on your part to be faithful to him but he's going out with somebody.Don't waste your time with him go on with your life and find someone who will be faithful to you.We girls have this instinct.You can catch him without confronting him or spying on him.Just observe his gestures and you'll know.

Normally I would suggest that you speak directly to your boyfriend. Since he is not answering your calls what do you think about sending a message to the girl? She may be more willing to tell you the truth than him. If you ask her just be polite and don't accuse her of anything. The point of talking to her would be solely for the purpose of you knowing the truth (or her version). It's true that people play games on myspace, but who would know that you weren't with him on that day? If your boyfriend doesn't have the common courtesy to answer your calls for 2 days then is he really worth your time and trouble? Respect yourself. Don't put up with games. There are plentyof guys out there. Choose one that respects you too.

What is your gut feeling about this? In my opinion you have doubted him already and that's not a good thing! You sound young...I really think that you should start to distance yourself from him...It's probably not going to end very nicely. Good Luck!

dont be soo lost, positif thinking friend

I'm sorry to read your post and hear how much pain this guy is causing you. However, based on what you wrote, I would have to say that I do think you are being cheated on and that you need to decide whether staying with a guy you cannot trust is really worth it. First of all, that post does not sound like it was written by one of the "boys". Secondly, why is it that you weren't able to go out with him and the boys if it nothing bad was going on? Thirdly, any guy who is avoiding your calls does not sound like he's making you a priority in his life. Weekends, especially Friday and Saturday nights are usually reserved for a girlfriend, if a guy is serious about her. And if he is going out with his friends, she should still feel like she's welcome to hang out with them. You're probably going to receive a lot of responses to your post and a lot of it will be sound advice. But, the one voice that should stand out more than anyone here is that voice of your intuition that had you doubting his actions and checking up on him to begin with. We all have intuition for a reason. Listen to yours, investigate and then take action... but deep down, I think you already know what's going on. Now you just need to decide what to do about it. Good luck! Zuri http://askzuri.blogspot.com

wow that was a capital paraniod. =) anyways, dont be alarm just tell him what happen that day and im sure he has his own explanation. DOnt be paraniod, if he cheats you its his lost.

Well, if you ask for my opinion, maybe your bf is having his time with other people and you are not included in his lists. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him, open up..Coz you see having clouds on your relationship (or having doubts) may lead to further suspicion that could make you insane so you better have a talk with him now.

are you letting your boyfriend to date another girl? is that not forbidden in your relationship? if that's okay with you, then you don't have to worry much. didn't he tell you where is he going that night and who will be with him? look, if she was having an affair with somebody, he wouldn't approve that comment coz he would think you gonna notice that and you'll be suspicious. maybe you're just getting so paranoid. i'll tell you it's gonna help. now if you can't really help to be suspicious, then confront your boyfriend now and talk about it and make things clear.

Yeah definately soemthing is up. If he couldnt see you that weekened and then you seen that message id be suspicious also. Good luck with him.

I know exactly how you feel. I dated this guy a few years back and he was twice my age. So I kind of figured there'd be no way he'd cheat on me or anything. I figured older guys were more mature for their age. Boy, was I wrong. He liked going hunting an awful lot. And so I assumed that he just really enjoyed hunting. I was so wrong he had cheated on me with at least 2 or 3 women that I know of. And the sad thing is I stayed true and I had many chances to cheat on him and didn't. So, I really felt like a fool. Now I am with a guy only 2 years older than me. And he treats me like a spoiled princess. And he gets on me for putting myself down since I am little over weight. He loves me for the way I am, not what he can get from me. When he's not working we are always together doing things. Including with our daughter. He is the best father ever to his daughter. He is opposite of my ex-boyfriend. If your boyfriend is supposed to be out with his boys, and you seen something posted on his myspace around the same time. More than likely you're not being paranoid. Everyone has a gut feeling about this kind of thing. Go with your instincts and trust them. Don't be a fool like me and stay in denial better yet, call him and tell him it's over and you either go out and hang out with your friends or find you a hobby or something to keep you busy to help get over the heartache and pains. The longer you wait, the harder it gets believe me. Then when you think you're ready go out and have a good time. My advice is just enjoy life and let mr. right find you don't go looking for him. The guy I am with now was not somebody I tried to just find. Fate really brought us together. His tires got blown out and he ended up staying at this dude's place where my cousin and some friends were living and that's how him and I met. If it wasn't for what happened to his tires he would've went back up to where he was living and ever since then we have been together. Don't give your hopes on true love, it's out there. You just can't force it. Let love happen on it's own course. You know you're in love when both of you wake up and can think of no one else but each other. And if the guy really loves you, he'll spend a good portion of his time with you and you only. Besides when he's working of course. And if he's as cool with you as he says he is he'll let you hang with him and his friends. I hang out with all my guy's friends and vice versa. Anyways, peace

It's too hard for judge anything friend . But don't take any actions untill you are very sure that he is cheating you. Take little time to judge what's happening in your life and how much you love him and whether he is worth of it or not. Think about few points on your relationship and write them down , wait for ten minutes then mark them with positives and negatives. More positives you find , Give more time to him to prove himself innocent .

I will advice you that you should follow the word of the bible which says that you should examine all things and hold to the truth.It can be a set up from people that want to jump into your affairs.I say this because i have expirence something like this before.

There are several reasons why people act in a certain way. Obvious as it may seem, you still cant gaurantee that wht your BF did was a sneaky act, not unless you talk to him about it. Bring it in the open. Now if you dont trust what he says.. then I guess its no longer healthy to stay in the relationship. Trust is a very important factor.. make sure you have it, if not then leav him.. because later on...that kind of relationship will suck and nothing will be left to you but anger and self-pity.

It could be innocent - it might be a friend, a relative, one of his friends messing about; I've had friends who've sent me Valentine's Day cards just to wind my wife up! Alternatively, it might be soemthing for you to be concerned about; based on what you've posted so far it's really hard to tell. Does he have any 'life events' taking place at the moment? You say he was with 'his boys' - could he have been to the cinema with his ex? Maybe something cropped up that his ex wanted to talk to him about? You say he hasn't called you, and he's not answering; might he be busy? I think that there MAY be something to be concerned about here, but don't panic yet. Best of luck.

ok...then lemme know too....what did he say...!!!!!

i think you must talk to him about your relationship, becouse if there are douts you must resolve that, if not problems would be every day worth....