gentlemen. gone for life?

Even I have an incident to share with you nearly same as this one. I was sitting in a service station ( getting my car dashboard repaired ) I found an old man standing few feets away from me. Suddenly I thought of asking him to sit on my seat as there was no other seat empty to sit. As soon as stood up and called old uncle what I found was a guy pushing me to sit on the seat. I nearly fell when he pushed me. I was angry like anything but didn't allowed him to sit an pushed him equally hard. Called old amn then requested him to sit as I turned to this guy he was trying to hide his face from me as I had huge body . I insulted him properly and asked him to say sorry or he will get properly banged by me. I still remmember the day and think of the man who was real bad.

Well I just hope you're not hastily generalizing that there really are no more gentlemen in the whole wide world because the one who wrote this post is one gentleman [ehem....LOL] - at least I think I am... I believe there are a lot of gentlemen still, and I know a lot of them. Guys escorting girls properly, making girls sit first for comfort and acts the likes of those are still apparent as far as what I'm seeing is concerned.. You shouldn't bother just because you bumped into a very inconsiderate guy - just think there are still a lot of gentlemen in the world!!!

hi,friend,is it,there are people like that still now.god bless them.

Not sure where you are, in my little rural towns even we women will hold a door for one another. Our postoffice in our county capital and is busy and often we can even converse and hold the doors and allow another to go ahead etc. I work with a guy and he is sure gentlemanly. Good luck in your life encountering more of these types of gentleman. I would have probably been with my children and would have taken the opportunity to teach them so that guy would hear about being mannerly. Maybe would not have done anything but the seed might have been planted for better behavior from him later for someone else.

Goodness, what unseemly behavior! But hang on, if you are queuing by ticket i.e. the seats are purely for sitting and not by queue order, then I don't see anything wrong with him taking up a seat. After all, I presume the bank is big and he may not have seen your grandma waiting. Or was she sitting already and the 5 seats were next to you. Other than that rushing which doesn't seem too nice, it is a free for all and he is more than entitled to the seat.

I believe that there are still gentlemen in the world left! But I understand how you feel about it. It is very difficult to believe sometimes. My mother and I have encountered this as well. We were in a store and they marked a shelf with the wrong price, my mother thought they were having a good sale and bought a few items. She went to the counter and was told that they were not on sale, but the item was marked that it was on the shelf. She pointed that out to him and he began making fun of her because she had an accent. He kept speaking louder and became more rude, he kept saying "do you understand me? I know your people don't speak English very good!" I told him that I spoke very good English and that he had no right to speak to her that way and that if he was too lazy to fix the pricing on the shelves that he shouldn't have a job. If it was just a mistake that it was fine, but he didn't have to be a jerk about it. It seemed that not many people liked him because everyone clapped after I said that. My mother and I were both embarrassed about this and we never shopped at that store again. I do know there are gentlemen in the world because my boyfriend has shown me there are. We were on a crowded trolley in New Orleans once and a very elderly lady came on and had to stand and we were sitting. He got up and offered her his seat. She was very nice and said that he was one of the few people that would offer her a seat and she was very thankful. She was a nice lady and we had a wonderful conversation about New Orleans! Then he asked if she needed help off of the trolley at her stop. She thanked him afterwards and I was so proud of him. So, don't give up! There are still gentlemen out there!

Of course there are still gentlemen left in this world ... but you are also making a lot of assumptions here. For a start how do you know that this man did not need the seat? You don't know that at all but just assume that he didn't for some reason or other .... more than likely simply because he was male. The next thing is that he was obviously a customer of the bank too .... that makes him just as important as anyone else, including your grandma. There were other seats there you said .... who was occupying them? you didn't expect anyone else to get up just to give your grandma a seat, so why expect that this man would not take a seat when it was available. Were the other people sitting down older than your grandma? If not, why didn't you ask one of them to let her have a seat? You say that when 5 people were called there were some vacant seats ... that is more than 1 seat, so why pick on one lone male who took one of them. Women wanted equality ... even in your country ... and yet you still want to be treated like you were in the days when women did not have equality. You cannot have it both ways at all ... those are the facts of this world we live in. You are in the wrong here ... assuming that your grandma was more entitled to a seat than anyone else and solely on the basis that she is a woman. I am a male and I will give up my seat to someone who is obviously elderly and frail ... but I am no spring chicken myself so feel just as entitled to a seat as someone else ... regardless of their gender. the exception is for someone who is both elderly and frail.

well there are really times that gentlemen cannot be found. maybe; like the story that you said, they dont want to stand up and wait for their name to be called for too long, but still, there are still gentlemen around.

That is sad to know that someone would occupy a seat when he knows there is someone who needs it more. The number of gentlemen in our country seems to decrease daily. However i still believe there are few more out there. For those who are not a gentlemen, dont worry about them they too will grow old and when they experience it, they would know how it feels. Sometimes when im with my Mom, and i saw i seat and went ahead of my mom and place my jacket on it or a book... then go back to my mom and lead her there. Or is someone (guy) seats on the it and my mom was the first to see it, i would call his attention and tell him straight that my mom needs it more than him. If he picks a fight, i go to the security about our concern then the security either tells the guy to stand up or he would get an office chair for my mom to sit on.

I think he belongs to the crowd.Most of the people we confront on a daily basis are preoccupied with the rat race and sometimes forget the briefcase of manners at their home.Although rare,but I think there are a few gentlemen still left in this evolving world.Who said change is always for the better? I hope you find someone who instills hope of their existence.

I think it has to do with what part of the world you are in. I find that in my town, which is not small but not a big city either, people are pretty courteous. But when I am in a city and things are moving fast and everyone is so busy, people just don't seem to think about others around them at all. We make a very big effort around my house to teach my son to be a gentlemen. He and my husband always open my car door for me and such. Well the other day we were leave a store and he waited about 45 seconds while he stood and held a door for an older lady as she was walking towards us. I noticed as she was walking through the door that she had a tear in her eye and she bent down and kissed my son right on the top of his head. Maybe it is a matter of being taught the importance.

Not quite, but it has diminshed to 10% or so i'm sure, me and my sons being part of that 10%, parents just don't seem to be stressing the importance and values of being a gentlemen, it just dosent mean as much as it used to, which is a shame but there is little we can do about it but to make sure our future generations don't end up on the wrong side of the statistic.