Have you ever heard of an almost 65 year old getting pocket money ??
By weemam
@weemam (13372)
March 27, 2007 6:19am CST
I will be 65 next month , and my parents are now 89 and 88 years old , Our 2 eldest are 44 and 41 and are both married with teenagers "our 4 gorgeous grandchildren" my Mum has always given the grandchildren and our youngest who still lives with us " a wee bit pocket money ", Mum and Dad both have Alzheimer's now , Dad's has progressed quite a bit but Mum is holding on and going a bit slower ,They both still live at home and I care for them , Mum is always trying to pay me but I won't accept it , I am the only child , well anyway ,A few weeks ago she said she was going to give me pocket money too , she is always fighting with me ( in a nice way) to pay for petrol and if we go for a meal ) we do this all the time , I laughed and said no ,Sometimes she wins and sometimes I do . but she gives Ross his then me mine , I laugh every time ( after saying thank you of course ) but it feels really weird lol , Hubby says if it makes her happy ( a lovely gesture ) well just let it be , I asked her if she minded if I put it here as a discussion and she said not at all , we were both laughing as I said what I would put as a heading , do you know anyone at 65 who gets pocket money ??
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Please treasure every moment you have with your family , you never know how long you are going to have them xx
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49 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
27 Mar 07
That is the sweetest thing I have ever heard! Yes, as the other posters stated,I would be gracious and accept. It is your moms way of saying thank you! My mom and me didn't have the greatest relationship growing up but over the years we have come to terms with a lot of things. She still tries to give me money, or she asks me if I need money for gas or food to go home when I visit. She insists on paying for dinners and my fiance and I have to trick her and pay the ticket for dinner when we are in town. She gets mad at us for that! Recently we moved from her town to another state and she gave us money for Christmas and then she gave us money for the trip. I felt so bad, and refused the money because I know both of my parents work hard and have very little, and I told her she should put that money away for them, but she became really upset and I had to accept it. I think this is mom's way of saying I love you and thank you for being who you are because as they get older they can't do as much as they used to.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
27 Mar 07
I am guesssing that since u are an only child, grown or not, you will always be her baby and if giving you some pocket-monney makes her happy then I think you should accept it.
If u don´t wanna keep it for yourself, save them in a place and when there is enough buy your mom something that she wants =)
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Wow! so sweet of your mom even she have alzheimer's she really thinks of her daughter that would not have money as a allowance I think she was still on the stage of thinking you were still a teenager who needs allowance!I think by accepting the pocket money she felt really at ease that you have money to spend for the week and don't let her be frustrate because you didn't accept it.
You are right weemam every minute that we are with our parents is worth holding because we never knew when that minute will last.
Nice discussion I wish I will have pocket money too when I reach 65 lol!!!
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
27 Mar 07
That is so sweet weemam, and I would take your hubby's advice and just accept it from her. It's her way of saying thank you for being there for her, and it must make her feel good. To her you are still her wee lassie, so go with the flow and say thank you with Ross for both your pocket money!
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
30 Mar 07
Well our ages are way different I am 56 and my daughter is 34. I can certainly share with you the other side of the coin. I have been fighting some pretty serious health issues the past few months and it's been the same in our house. First my husband was ill and in the hospital. My daughter drove to our place with her two small children and totting a big box of groceries. Knowing I was facing health issues and trying to care for my sick husband not to mention his brother who has cebral palsy lives here also and she thought I had enough to do without cooking. I forgot to offer her gas money it's a 3/4 of an hour away but I did insist she take money to pay for my food after all that keep my brother-in-law and going for awhile. She absolutely would NOT take a dime. I felt bad because I would have had to cook. She brought a couple cooked chickens salad and goodness knows what all even brought fruit. I paid for nothing. My daughter is close by my side and I don't know what I'd do without her. Give up I'm sure. So when someone wants to pay you for what you do I guess what matters is the knowing you're loved as well as appreciated. You are a very good person and it's wonderful you are standing behind your family. I wish you all the Best Always...Take Care
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
Oh for goodness sake this is coincidental my husband had quadruple bypass in June. We have lots in common. Take care
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@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I agree that you should just accept it. It is a sweet gesture from your Mum! If you feel guilty about accepting it, go buy something for your Mum, or save it for her Christmas, Birthday or Mother's Day gift.
Your post made me cry weemam! I haven't seem my Mom in 3 years and I really, REALLY miss her badly! Before I moved away we were really close, now I only talk to her about once a week.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
28 Mar 07
Well, no, I haven't. But as yoiu are caring for your parents, both of whom have Alzheimer's, I think all you can do is accept. It obviously makes you Mum happy.
My Father is developing Alzheimer's. It runs in our family.
You must be doing a wonderful job caring for them.
You probably qualify for some help.
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@tad1fan (3367)
• Canada
30 Mar 07
You're very last sentence were the words I was going to use to start my response....I lost my mom,unexpectedly in '99 at the age of 55,we were best friends.....my father arrived here on December 23rd and spent Christmas with me and my family,continued his trip and came back on the 5th of January....he passed on the 8th at the age of 67....you never know when they will go,take all the time you can with your parents and ...... just love them and let them know you do.....
@anonymili (3138)
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27 Mar 07
Awh weehun that is ever so adorable, getting pocket money at your age. I think it's something you should treasure, as you say your dad has progressed quite a bit and your mum's holding on so well. Hubby and I are staying with my parents whilst we have some building work done at our place and I'm trying to give mum money towards the shopping but she keeps refusing. She's such a dear and has our food ready for us by the time we get home from work, I just don't expect this at my age and neither does hubby and she's obviously having to cook double what she normally does and spend more on food. We're trying to think of a lovely gift to buy mum and dad for having us but they have pretty much everything they need. I think it's lovely that you told your mum you were going to write a discussion about it, I hope she gets a chance to read some of the responses. Bless her and bless you weehun. xxxxxxxxx
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@acquaria (719)
• Italy
27 Mar 07
I'm according with you at 100%.when i was teenager I alswyes discussed with my parents thinking they were unjust with me because the didnt respect my choices.Now after many years and far of them I miss them so much and every time I turn back home for few days I try to stay with them every second.They are the most beautiful and precious thing of my life
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
27 Mar 07
that is a nice one weemam
and your parents seems like two lovely people.
yes i do know this "habit"
it is the same with my grandparents.
they have 2 children: my mother and her sister.
and there is always the same story here.
they give them pocket money and then they give all of us grandchildren pocket money too.
they insist. they are always saying that they need to take care of us. and they like doing so.
and no matter how much we fight with them and say that we are not going to take money from them..there is always the same result:
they give and we take.
they smile and we laugh.
it seems like they enjoy it very much and we ar ea very close and small family.
so anything that they enjoy i enjoy too.
and i do try to give them in return:)
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
27 Mar 07
Why not? Anyone is young enough to get pocket money :P
I do think you are indeed lucky to get pocket money from your parents. I really envy your family. I initially thought it is pocket money from your children. In the asian society, it is often the working adults giving pocket money to the parents and elders. But who cares, as long as there is give and take and both parties are happy with the gesture, nothing wrong with having some pocket money even if you are 70 years old.
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@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Weemam,
I live with my parents (83 and 78) and the only thing they do is help with gas; They got their bills and I got mine; IF she insists, she's a lady and trying to pay her own way, say Thanks, Mum and keep on going; Put it somewhere where it will gome to good use down the road; You just never know. Me myself, I don't mind no pocket money, but I hate the fact that folks that work their whole lives for the little they get, then you got folks taking it out their hands; I got some instances of that in my own family right now as we speak.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
28 Mar 07
wow..thats great...well you have a happy and close family ties...its very rare now a days to have one..especially now that each members are busywith their own life...filipinos are like that always taking good care of their aged parents..my mom is 71 yrs old and still active and kicking thanks God for the strength He have given to my mom..with a healthy life and body...
@TAURUSGIRL (735)
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28 Mar 07
Thants brilliant, my mum is 81 and up to last june dad used to give her pocket money, he insists on paying all the bills from his money mum gets to keeps hers and dad gives her some extra pocketmoney 'just in case' as he says . Unfortunately shes not too good just now and probably in the finaly stage of her life, but she still can remember if hes given her her pocket money and reminds him she hasnt had any this week hahah . Yes treasure them for they are only on loan to us. tc
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@CatEyes (2448)
• United States
4 Apr 07
So very sweet to hear things like this! I remember when my grandparents were living they did the same thing and I felt uncomfortable accepting money from them too. They really did not have the money in the first place, but they always wanted to give a little to us.
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@jojogirl (289)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
how i wish my mom would also give me pocket money. LOL. you've got a sweet mom weewam! don't stop her whenever she insists on paying for petrol or dinner or groceries, that's not taking advantage, you know. the thought that you still need her probably makes her feel good.
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@someincome (785)
• India
28 Mar 07
That is very sweet. And warm. Its a nice thing to know 4 generations going together so well. I think you taking it from your mom will only please her and give her happiness. You should take it.
