what do you consider disrespectful?

Oooooh and you didnt slap him in the mouth?? Man I would have..but thats just me.... At what age shoudl they be allowed to question?? ANY AGE! and it should be ENCOURAGED IMO because that is how we learn....question everything, talk to ppl, ask questions, be curious and so on...I think not only was it wrong for him to get mad but it was also very unfair for him to not explain WHY it "wasnt possible"....

it doesnt sound to me like your daughter was being disrespectful. she was just asking a simple question. he shouldnt have made a big deal about her question. maybe he was just moody that day. i dont think it is disrespectful until you - the parent- have told her your answer and made it clear what your reasoning is. it isnt right once the child starts to question your decision. its also disrespectful once the child starts to raise their voice at you. i dont like to see children do that. it especially drives me crazy when the parents let the kids talk very ugly to them and the parents act like the child didnt say anything. i have a niece that talks back to her grandparents and throws things at them, and snatches things out of their hands just becuase she is not getting what she wants. i have told her, "you are SO lucky i am not your mom" i would never allow my children to treat their grandparents like that. i have even told my in laws that they cant spoil our kids with materialistic things, but they can shower them with love and affection all they want. my kids will be getting in big trouble if i ever hear them talking back to any elders. i think all kids can question their parents decision, but only once. once they have heard the answer, that is all we should have to explain to them. we dont even HAVE to explain the reason, sometimes we just know what is better, and we are not in the mood to argue about it.

I think the problem is not the question or the disrepectful, there's a main problem undercover. If she was his daughter would he think the same way? I dont think so... What i think is that men have a problem when the children dont belong to their genes, when the children dont come from his side. Dont go on his game (even because he doesnt realise what he is doing is something behond his understanding is interiorized), and protect your daughter in matters like this, she only have you to defend her and at the same try to explain the your b/f have different ways of thinking so she wont feel so much hurted.

Yes, and you know what I found out? Coming from a parent to someone that does not have any children, they don't fully understand the key to raising a child. I don't think your daughter was disrespectful at all, if anything, I would be turning to my boyfriend and letting him know we would have to have a conversation. I have been asked on dates before, but some just never understand, if I don't have a sitter, I can't go out. Instead get a little upset. I end up getting upset as well because I feel they don't have any patience or respect for the fact I am a mother. Bottom line, if you are bothered by your boyfriend actions, sit down and talk to him and explain to him how you feel and how disrespectful it was for the way he reacted with your daughter.. Good luck to you

I don't think your daughter was being disrespectful. However it could've been in the way that she said it. Sometimes the tone of how something is said can convey disrespect even better than rude words.

Your bf probably thought your daughter asked in a disrespectful manner, but I think children are exceptions. I mean, how old is your daughter? Kids can be easily disappointed especially if they're really excited about something and yet it won't happen after all.. Kids tend to question adults, it's in their nature to 'know' everything.. we have to have reasons for them to believe and for them to answer their question 'why'.. Your bf is an adult, he's the one who should understand and not your child understand him.

I heard the Upper Secondary school director, who had been involved with women. Now he failed his position. It heard the head of Association that was being affair with secretary, people didn't respect them much. I heard people borrowing money my partner and never return to her, even her sister borrowed the money, she told that she didn't make a loan. it is not really respectful. My friends do not keep the words, that make him disrespectful.

He got mad because your daughter asked why you couldn't go somewhere? First off how did she ask?? I would say that is not disrespectful-- Is he her father? I have a similar problem at times-- My sig. other and I were raised differently- So we have different parenting skills- I'm the real parent- and so I make the decisions- Sure I make my daughter listen to him too-- but sometimes he is so off the wall- He thinks that she is disrespectful at times for things that I think she is just a kid for! So I think that all kids should be able to ask questions-- as long as they aren't asking in a rude way.

its normal for a child to ask "why we couldnt" because she dont know whats the reason why can possible to visit your brother.. maybe you have to explain everything eventhough she is just only a kid but im surely she will understand it\

Children always want to know why. My son has asked why since he was about 3 years old and realized that there is always a reason for every decision we make. I don't think it is disrespectful for a child to ask why they cannot do something. I think it is disrespectful for the adult to ignore the child's question. Children may be small and not know as much as adults do, but they are still people with opinions and feelings and should not be treated as if those feelings don't matter. Personally, I think the person being disrespectful was your boyfriend and he owes your daughter an apology.

That was mean and not even fair for your daughter. She was just asking question and that respond was normal for a child her age. He should have taken it politely. Your child was not being disrecptful in that situation. She was just letting out her opinion on why you guys have to be suppressed to visit your brother.

I don't think that is disrespectful. My daughter was taught to ask questions too. My ex husband is much like your boyfriend. He too felt that way. I told him that my daughter has the right to ask questions. If a stranger came to her and asked her to get into his car, is it right that she ask why? Should she respect adults and not question them? I know that is an extreme scenario, but it worked. He said he never though of it that way. If she does ask a question of why during an inappropriate moment or it is a situation she is still too young to deal with, I will answer her question in the best way I know how, but if she persists, I then tell her it is an adult situation and not for childrens ears, she must show respect for that. I think all ages should question why we do things. It is how they learn!

are you kidding me? a child always asks questions. there's no right age for it. it's normal for a child to be curious and asks questions especially if she's denied of what she wants. there was no reason for your b/f to get mad especially if she was asking nicely. she was after all excited with the prospect. maybe you should teach your b/f a thing or two bout dealing with a child especially if you want to make him a part of your life for a long time.

It is time that you answer for your actions ,son .your punishment is as follows

Kids should be able to express themselves. When they get reprimanded they should be told why for them to see their errors. The kind of adults surrounding her when she's a kid will most likely be the kind of adult she will become when she grows up. I think you should have a talk with your b/f.

Hmm, does your boyfriend have anything that he dislikes about your past? No offence. But I think you know where i'm heading. Give it more time, get kiddo to learn how to communicate with your boyfriend. Think it communication problem and of course your boyfriends mental problem about your kid.

Insecurity. This is also the kind of difference i have with my wife. My wife tends to treat our kids as subordinates. I treat our kids as equal especially in terms being heard of in our family. Unless otherwise i call for private or limited audience conversation with their permission, everyone most especially my kids can very well express or be around adults in conversation. The only cases that i will impose my authority is when if i see wanton display of disrespect i.e. shouting, cursing, & the likes. In which cases would really call for order.

I guess it would depend on how she actually asked. It's like they say, it's not what you say but how you say it. Was she standoffish? If not, then in my opinion, she is allowed to express her opinion or at least ask the question. But then again, some people think I spoil my kids. I know when my kids are being disrespectful to me though because I know them and I understand where they are coming from. When I feel they are being disrespectful I call them on it. The adults in my family think they are being disrespectful but when I talk to their teachers etc they all compliment me on how well behaved my kids are and what a good job I'm doing. You know your daughter and understand where she is coming from. Your bf, if he is not her father, does not.

I tried responding to your situation earlier, but I don't think it work...Anyway I can totally relate to your situation. My boyfriend is the same way. I have a 4yr old son and he's very opinionated for his age, and will will tell you what he thinks, and how it makes him feel. My boyfriend was raised completely different than me. He believes that he shouldn't have to answer to a child, and they should just accept things as they are(yeah right)! I don't believe that your daughter was talking back by all means. She was simply looking for an answer to UNDRSTAND! I think some adults forget that children are people too, and have feelings!

OMG, I can definatley relate to this...My boyfriend, who's my 4yr old son's stepdad would definately say the same thing about this incident. I myself, believe that no matter how old a child is. They should be able to express their opinion. My son for example, is very opinionated for his age at times. And it rubs off on his stepdad the wrong way. I think children are simply looking for an explanation to UNDERSTAND WHY whatever the reason may be. I think some adults forget that children are people too, and have feelings!