My "Mylot" Secret GUILT

That would be unfair. I think best responses would be made to those who gave their best response acoording to your point of view regardless of who they are. Don't feel guilty about it.

No Heather you are not strange as I get like that to but sometimes it has to be done there is no way about it and I am sure all our Friends agree on that . So stop feeling bad it

I give credit where credit is due, I will also give my friends best response to help them out sometimes. but most;y if it is a good response it will give to friend or not. It is so hard to decide with all the good answers, then when you do give a best response you wish you would have waited because theres so many good replies.

I give a Best Response to whom ever I feel best replied. Fairly often it turns out to be someone on my friends list. This is because I have a few friends, who nearly always respond. Hence, their chances of a best response increase. Occasionally I would give a best response to complete strangers.

I give best responses to whoever had the best response for that particular discussion, although I have been lazy at clearing out my unresolved discussions. I gotta get on that. When I give a best response to someone who is not on my friends list I usually go and check out their profile and put in a request if I think it's someone I'd like to be "friends" with. Don't feel quilty whiteheather, if someone deserves a best response give it to them! :)

I think it is more important that we are active on here. i have not been for several days and feel guilty about that. I give best response as i see it due. If you give BR only to your friends then you may miss making a new friend. I think it is important to check in on our friends discussions and responses but if we find a response we feel strongly about by someone other than on our friends list we would only think about and feel guilty that we gave BR to someone else just because..... Do what your heart/mind says and not what you think is expected of you.

Best response should be given to the one who actually gives, in your opinion, the best response. If it is difficult to choose, I often defer to anyone on my friends list. But, don't feel pressured to do that if you don't want.

I think you shouldn't feel bad about it at all heather, in fact it is unfair to give the best response only to friends. Everybody has the equal chance of responding and we should give them a fair chance of earning the BR. I personally look for the response rather than the person, because even if that person is inactive or not bothered, he/she still put in an effort to give thought to their response. I have never thought about whether I know them or not.

Hello whiteheather39....... Definitely not ! Best response should go to the member who wrote the best response, no matter who it is. Always favoring friends is what creates corruption. Tom

I don't believe that I should only give best responses to friends. I believe that I should only give best responses to people who actually had the best response. The only time I would really feel bad about it is if I had a bunch of really good responses, and it was a really close call. Then I worry if I don't choose my friend they will think "But I made a really good response, so why didn't she pick it?" On the other hand, I don't really want to have friends that only like me because I give them best responses all the time. If I really feel my friend had the best response, then I will acknowledge that. If not, then I'll give it to whoever had the best response. And I should hope that my friends have the integrity to do the same.

I know what you mean Heather,I do the same thing but sometimes you have to go with your gut.....I wish you could pick more than one just because there's always a response fom more than just one on your list.....the other day this happened to me,I picked someone not on my list and I ended up going back to find them and invited them to join my list,they accepted and we've been chatting back and forth quite a bit....LOL.....isn't that crazy?

From what I understood, "helping out" friends here at myLot means responding to their discussions as we seem fit. I stick to what the term "best" in 'best responses' means, and that is to choose the best among the given responses, of course. Thus, I don't have any guilt feelings whatsoever should I choose someone who's not in my friends' list. For me, I think it's justified enough. Happy myLotting!

I feel that Best Responses should be given to whoever gives the best response regardless of whether you know them, regardless of whether they're on your friends list or not, and regardless of what they might think about being given best response. The whole point of having Best Responses is so that people know that they've helped others, and that they're being rewarded for that. I give Best response to whoever I feel deserves it the most. I think it's unfair to only give Best response to people on my friends list. Everyone should be given an equal shot at it.

well, ive never give my best responses until i read this.. haha.. i feel the guilt too thanks to yah

A Best Response should go to the person who you feel has made the best response to your discussion, whether they are on your friends list or not. I've given BR to many people who are not on my friends list, and I don't feel guilty at all. In fact, sometimes I feel guilty when I do give a BR to someone on my friends list...LOL.

I give the best response to the one that I feel has answered the best. I don't care if they are a friend or not, alot of them are, because that is who answers the most of them, but not all the time. I do not feel guilty, I feel I give it to the one that deserves it.

So glad I am not the only one who gets that pang. I get that same pang when I give best response to a friend who I have given it to in the past. It is not that I play favorites, it is just that that person gave what I considered the best response.

No, I do not feel guilty, I just look at who best understands the spirit of the discussion and answers what ever questions I pose. I have made new friends this way, though.

well I always like to get and give BR from friends list but sometimes a stranger gives the best responce. I f that the way you fell give it to them

I just answered something like this yesterday-- In a round about way- I guess I don't care if the person is on my friends list-- If I think they gave me the most information and it was the best repsonse then I give it to them-- it's an added bonus if they are a friend. I even befriend people this way-- If they aren't on my list-- I'll check out their profile and ask them to be. Good question-- I think alot of people probably think this way.