Why Do We Stay In Bad Relationships?
By sassy5d
@sassy5d (118)
United States
March 27, 2007 8:05am CST
I've been doing some soul searching recently.. I've been reflecting on my life. The one thing that really sticks out in my mind is my current relationship with my man.
I really wonder... when it's sooo apparent that two people are just SOO not happy together.. why do they stay together?
We used to be really happy.. I'd like to think that I put up with much more then most people would. When I talk about anything that comes up with friends.. they all tell me they don't know how I do it.
I think about.. what other woman would put up with as much b.s as I do?
He's very insecure.. which I guess makes me insecure. He's also very immature. It's almost like he keeps score.. he thinks I do something, which I don't.. then he thinks "well if she did it, so can I"
Just makes me wonder.. why do we stick around in bad relationships?
2 responses
@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
I forgot to mention that when I was in a similar situation, I stayed because it was convenient, so that's a big factor too.
Also, if you and your partner have been together for awhile, you may be intimidated about going it alone again or dating again. Just don't settle. If you're unhappy now, that won't change. :(
@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
Often, we stay in relationships because we do not understand that we have rights and options. Low self-esteem can be a factor in remaining, as well as depression, fear of being alone, or threats from the hurtful partner. Sometimes, people stay because the toxic relationship so much mirrors their lives as children, that they truly may not have a sense that it is a toxic relationship and that life can be better.
What was your parents' marriage like?
