Gay and Lesbians

Hi my friend I am not so sure about factors to consider on being gay and lesbias but I do have valuable research about it. This is a statement by Bryant Welch, JD, Ph.D., Executive Director for Professional Practice with the APA. "The research on homosexuality is very clear. Homosexuality is neither mental illness nor moral depravity. It is simply the way a minority of our population expresses human love and sexuality. Study after study documents the mental health of gay men and lesbians. Studies of judgment, stability, reliability, and social and vocational adaptiveness all show that gay men and lesbians function every bit as well as heterosexuals." "Nor is homosexuality a matter of individual choice. Research suggests that the homosexual orientation is in place very early in the life cycle, possibly even before birth. It is found in ten percent of the population, a figure which is surprisingly constant across cultures, irrespective of the different moral values and standards of a particular culture. Contrary to what some imply, the incidence of homosexuality in a population does not appear to change with new moral codes or social mores." Psychologists are instructed to view homosexuality as a natural variation in human sexuality, and to not view homosexuality, in and of itself, as a mental illness or mental disorder. That for me means the real issue confronting our society today is not why people seek love and understanding as they do, but why some seem so unable to love and understand them at all. Nice topic my friend.

As a lesbian I can tell you that I didn't become gay any more than you became heterosexual. I think environment can have an effect on it but I believe it is mostly genetic. I never realised I was a lesbian until I was 30 years old, by which time I had been married in a heterosexual marriage for 11 years. For that whole time I felt that something wasn't right, that something didn't fit. LIke I was a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. But I just couldn't put my finger on what it was until I realised I was actually a lesbian. Looking back I can see that I had been attracted to females all my life. But I just blindly followed the conditioning placed on me that girls got together with boys and had children. I had no real way of knowing that there were alternatives to that. I can assure you that I didn't 'choose' to be gay... why would I choose to live a lifestyle that would cause me to be rejected by my friends? I can choose whether to live a gay lifestyle... but not whether to be gay. That is something that is completely inbuilt in both my body and psyche.

I ma not quite sure either..Some people say it is genetic and that it comes naturally, for some they are not sure and they try both and they end up with one preference..It is actually best to ask some gay and lesbian people how ntheir sexuality developed..It wilol be an interestingn insight into how they view their sexuality .

I also wonder about that... I think its in the genes though..., gays and lesbians were born gays and lesbians. Have you seen Animal Planet's feature about gay and lesbian behaviours found in animals? Maybe it's the same with us humans.

Human behavior, orientation and personality springs from enculturation that is unique to each. The important thing is respect in the midst of diversity. Homosexuality is just another choice, like diet direction or fashion sense. It would be a pity for people who are ignorant enough to view this decision in a pathological sense. ^_^ @ sechsey do you have a friendster account?

We do not just become gay. We are born gay. Of course I am gay, I have had the same lover for 8 years and I am very happy. For the most part the reason people state "why do they turn out gay?" Well it is not that fact that someone has just become can, it is just that the person just come out.

here is a couple things that to think about, some girls become lesbians because they are sick of the way guy treated them and find that other girls understand them better. maybe same with guys. other facts are they could born that way. but alot of people are bi, they like both the female and male, they are boarderline, which mean they can go either way

I didnt make a choice to be gay, I just always knew I was. There is only an 18 month age difference between my brother and myself, we were brought up in exactly the same enviroment yet we are two very different people. He is happily married and as straight as they come, I am in a happy relationship with a guy.

there is a lot a ways on how to become a gay or lesbians.some are inborn,some thinks that they are when they are not,because they were influenced or too much exposure to such THING will make you think you are one of them,and some are because they were abused when they were young and chose to be one when they grow up.but i think this situation can be heal because a lot of my gay friends have been converted to straight.i just dont know why a lot of those THINGS dont believe that being gay or lesbians can be converted to straight.

i say i was basically born this way,i mean,ever since i was 7 i never favored boys. i always caught myself looking at a female. even if i did look at a guy and judge him on his apperence,i couldnt see me with him. i always saw myself with a female. i feel more comfortable with them. as far as how some become that way,some people that experiment,end up loving it ans choose to be that way. everyone is different