How can mom help with son's marriage problems long distance.

Perhaps they want a third person to just listen to their problems.If you feel interfering would mess things up ,then you can stay out,but if you think knowing what the problems are could give you a better understanding of how to approach the problems or help them solve it , then you could talk to them separately.If it isn't possible over phone ,then you could use Skype.It's a software that lets you call from pc to pc free of charge.Eventually,they will have to learn to deal with it ,but some support could help them vent and let go whatever minor differences they might be having.

Usually, the more we stay out of it the better. If your son's wife gets the idea that you are taking your son's side, she will resent you for it for the rest of your life. Just say something like, "I'm sorry you're having a problem, but I'm sure you will figure out the best solution." I know you really want to help, but sometimes no help is the best help. He needs to get past coming to his mother for help with marriage problems. It might be nice if you sent a little check to cover a babysitter so they could have a night out if they are short of money.

At this point all you can do is listen and offer him your motherly advice. It is ultimately thier life and thier relationship and they will have to find a way to work it out. If they can't then they may have to live apart. Maybe you could suggest they seek counselling or other outside help. It is natural to fight...and I think every couple has thier problems..it is how they work them out that counts...

I think that you are doing fine. I think it is better that you are not real close. Sometimes a wife can be intimidated by her mother-in-law. My advice would be to listen to your son. Sometimes people just need a chance to think out loud. I would give advice sparingly. They are adults and need to resolve the problems themselves.

If you give him advice, encourage both of them to communicate with one another more openly and to do so calmly. Arguing and yelling never solve anything and usually build resentment in all involved. If they are going to communicate, they need to do so consructively. They need to make time for each other even when both have busy schedules. They also need to point out common goals and interests. Working with what they have in common, they can figure out a plan to work on what is different and causing the problems. They need to really get to the heart of what is leading to all of the arguing and that means being honest with each other and being willing to listen respectfully. Some things may be difficult to hear, but they must sometimes be said (but they must be careful not to blame each other or send the wrong message). They must also not use you as a way to excuse their own non-constructive behavior. They must look at their own situation, deal with it in a postive manner that creates a situation where they both feel that they have gained something and improved their present situation, and be willing to handle problems in the future in a similar manner. It isn't fare to you that they pull you into this knowing that you can't solve this for them, but they must do so for themselves and their child(ren).

It is pretty normal a marriage couple arguing once in a while, that's a spice of life. When I'was arguing with my husband, sometimes all I need is someone to just listen (besides my husband, of course) to my anger mumbling, just to let all the anger out. Plus a few comment to make me feel better until I can calmed myself down so I can think clearly. So, I think the best think to do is just listen what he has to say. Don't need to give too much advice since it makes things more confusing since we know only one side of the story. Be a listener. Eventually he'll have to solve his own problem but when your are in anger/ dissapointed it is the best way to talk to someone in this case to you (his mother that he can trust). Otherwise, it will lead to stress. Personally, I think better let him talking than hitting or even hurt himself. Good luck and all the best !!!

I'd butt out. Don't get involved in it.

Unfortunately, when your child grows up, it is not up to you to solve their problems. They are going to have to deal with things one way or another and there isn't a lot you can or should do. Sometimes, when my mother gets involved it does make things worse and she is really just trying to help. Love them...and let them work it out ! I wish everyone in the situation well...

Let them deal with it, there isnt anything that you can say that will change it. They are the two that are arguing and need to come to a middle ground on the issue. They might just need some alone time, or they might need time away from each other. But, they need to find out what they really need.

I think u shuld not involve in there matter at all but if not u then who else??? As u r the MOTHER and if ur Son's wife is a bit nice to u just give something nice solution to them or just say ur son that "think of there CHILD b4 arguing again and again. This daily arguments vll affect their child seriously." Dont ever take side of any one of them. If possible, go to them for a day or two and then try my suggestion. I hope and wish that everything vll get settle.