Husbands and wives, would you care?

First I will find out what cause my marriage to be at risk. Then I will give the relevent treatment/solution to save my marriage from the risk. Marriage life is just like drive a car on the road, which won't be straightforward without any traffice; blockage or problem. But we are all aware that the wheel is in our hand, it depends on us how to drive to avoid the traffice accident. So is marriage.

I would be very upset and sad. My husband and I have been together for a total of 15 years now and married for 12 of those. We have had alot of ups and downs but we have worked through all of them. We have also been through many of lifes trials together and we have stood by each others side through every one of them. My husband is the only friend that I have and I would be totally lost without him with me. My husband and I have grown really close over the years and I do believe if our marriage was at risk, we would eventually work things out.

If my marriage is at risk, I will take all the chance to save it. No matter what, if I can I will try to save it. But for some reasons I cannot save it, I will accept it also. Because I knew I have exerted my best effort to keep it.

If it was at risk, then i will revisit my self first. Revisit because maybe i was neglecting things that are important to my husband. It's like analyzing oneself with regards to the TIME i spend with my Husband & TIME i spend with our Kids, i'm speaking of Quality time. Where you enjoy being with one another just talking, laughing and having fun. Or have i been Busy with myself, work and friends. I would ask myself when was the last time I surprised my husband when he gets home? If you have a maid with you, ask yourself... when was the last time i was the one who Cooked him breakfast or the last time i serve him his favorites. When i have revisted myself, and realize my shortcomings, i would fill it up and try to change. Afterwards if it still didnt work out. I will revisit my husband, and to see what is wrong just like how i revisited myself, when i knew his short comings, i would talk to him in a KIND manner to tell him how you feel about those shortcoming and to inform him that you want to save the marriage. Wait for how he will react. If a third party is involve, its hard not to be furious but if you want to save the marriage be calm. Ask him why he had the affair, because one thing is a fact, when a man have an affair that means the third party (mistress) is filling up something IMPORTANT which your husband needs. ASK him why he had the affair, this is hard but its a matter of one question: Do you want to save the marriage or Do you not want to save the marriage?

Recently my marriage was at risk. When this happens, you really reevaluate your priorities. I started communicating more openly and honestly with my husband. We are still on rocky roads, but we are fighting to keep this marriage and family togehter.