The agony of a single child.

Hello,its tough to understand childs mentality,becausechildren does not know what they do is correct and at what time they behave is right or not. Generelly thoes kids you are broughtup alone in their childhood will do the same as your son does but dont force him to do what you want him to do nor make him scare this may show adverse effects on their brain in some casesand your son needs some time to fase this and if he is a school boy he will learn how to share things and how to mingle with others in less time but you continue to take him to the parks leave him in between the kids but dont giveup as this can make him very possesive to his belongings in his future. If you are financially good enough then go for the 2nd issuse (baby) it may work out,as every child needs the company of other child in my view as i saw it working with othersdoing this where one of my friend succeded.

I think most parents today have single kids or at the most two children. I think you should start by calling your frinds with children his age home. This could start of his interaction. Children do take their time getting attached to others or sharing their toys etc. Being the only child he would be getting all your attention at home. I think thats why he does not like attention due to him being given to others in the park by you. I think gradually he'll grow his network of friends. Its something i feel you shouldn't be overly worried about.

I had my daughter lasdt year seven years after my son and I could understand how hard it is to raise a single kid. My son was never like non-sharing tyope but he was a loner. he never had many friends and was always with me beside me and not very outgoing. In this city he made a friend with a girl who had a younger brother around eight months. THat kid adored my son so one day she tolsd him not to come to her house as its her brother not his. my sonm came back with tears in his eyes, but by then I had already concieved so I consoled him and that day I realised how important it is for the kid to have a partner with him. I really thank god that now he has a sister qand he adores her like anythiong and now he has started opening up too with other kids too.

saheli~ hi, I myself was a single child. I was very lonely to say the least but my mom tried very hard to play with me and to make me a "social butterfly" as some would call it now a days. I found it very hard to make new friends and to be honest still find it hard to this day to open myself up to this experience. I honestly do not think that this behavior is brought on by being an "only child" because I now have 3 children of my own that are 7,5, and 4, and only 1 of them is this way now. He is my middle child and has been with his older brother for most of his life and has grown up knowing that "sharing" is the "norm" in my household and will be punished if he does not do so with other kids that come into the house also. I have just come to the somewhat "unhappy" conclusion that my child inherited my somewhat introverted and shy tendencies when it comes to intereacting with other children and also adults and that hopefully he will learn to grow out of them, as I have somewhat done when growing into adolescent and adulthood. I do not believe in letting my children get away with "anti-social" behavior such as not sharing with others and throwing temper tantrums in public and such things as that. I guess most people would say that I am a strict parent, but I also want my children to have respect for all the people that are around them, no matter what their age and no matter what the setting. My suggestion would be to keep putting him in social settings with just a couple of other kids his age and telling him that he has to share. No if and's or but's, but as I said before, that is me. I believe that children over 3 years of age, do know the difference in between right and wrong for some stuff and that sharing is a concept that they can easily grasp. If he doesn't learn now and soon, it will just turn into a bigger problem later on.