in Marriage life, what are those things to do to have an ideal family?

I had been married almost 9 years to my husband and our love for each other has also changed but we had two children which has taken up fair amount of our time !! But as days go by our love grows stronger !!

Hi mabbygm, first of all, do know that many married couples feel the way you do. It was a phase for my hubby & myself. Our personalities are different and we have different strengths & weaknesses as well. I don't think the love is any less for you now than before. Do you have children? I personally think that when we have children, much of our time is taken up by them. So that means time for each other (our spouse) is less. If you have no children yet, then it seems to me that reality just sets in. You both have to decide how your marriage should be and where will it be. Statistics show that many families go through divorce within the first 5 years of marriage life. That to me, is a scarry thought. I've been married for 8 years. What i've learnt through these years is so valuable even my parents can't teach me this. We MUST always have special times put aside for us to grow as a couple. Try doing something new that both of you can enjoy. Have you ever tried trekking, archery, trapeze, yatching, horseback riding, hot air ballooning, 2nd or 3rd or 10th honeymoon? Hope this helps. God bless you both! -Lyn Remember to put in the effort to honestly show appreciation for your spouse contributions, occasional surprises that are thoughtful also helps.

maybe.self-actualization.......i'm not married.....i think it should be maintained and of course the cooperation between the parents

well, married is new way of life, when you get married all things are going to be changed, the life when you are single, is no longer part of it, because your attention only focus on your family and to your husband, but it is not that married life is not good, it is just making a serious way..