Help! My fiance is anti-social!

It's very easy to make the judgement that someone is deliberately being rude. It sounds to me as if he has a real problem that needs to be dealt with. He may be extremely anxious about meeting people, especially if he's shy or an introvert. Or he may have Asperger's, which includes many social problems. Stop judging and try to find out what the problem is.

This is a bummer. I have been with my wife for 33 years and we've been married 29 years next week. Anyhow to this day she has one friend. That is her boss's wife. She works 6 days a week 12 hours a day so she doesn't have a lot of free time. But she still doesn't talk much to people. Nor does she make friends. Some of her customers she claims are freinds but she only talks to them when they come in to the restaraunt. I still have friends from my past 2 jobs that i talk to. Anyhow it's rough her not having friends and I do. Especially when I want to go out with them. She refuses to go. Oh well. I've lived with this for so long it's normal now. Hahaha! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!

This post have been sent a year ago. I wonder whether any improvements have been made or not. Is your partner an Aspergers? Try to spend time together whether he is on computer or not. Talk it over with him. Tell him that you desire to meet new people make new friends. Choose your friends wisely. Involve him on the decision making. Do not be pushy to make friends with someone whom he does not like or trust. But switch off the computer when guests are around.

I have social anxiety and I am like that around new people. I avoid most social situations and I do not want to be around when there is a guest in the house either. It is a condition that is difficult to understand if you don't have it. What comes naturally to you may not be natural for your husband. Try to find out about it from him... before the actual social situation, and be understanding.

Well you are right, he have to change his behavoiur he cannot just ignore people and ignore what are they feeling. It is important to talk to your boyfriend and tell him that if he loves you he will try to change a bit his behaviour even with your family.

To be honest, that sounds a lot like me, and it drives my boyfriend crazy sometimes lol. People who don't live with it generally don't understand it-they can't relate, as much as they mean well. The truth is, I was very shy as a kid, and I've learned to overcome it to an extent. I'm pretty outgoing and nutty when I'm comfortable with someone. The issue is that, for me anyways, in certain situations, like with new people where the conversations's going to go anywhere beyone the hi, nice weather, see ya conversations I get very uncomfortable, and fact is I don't want to be there, but not because I'm bored, or snooty, or being rude. It's like an extreme awkwardness, with a mental blank. Think of it as you're sitting at the computer, and your fiance walks in with two new neighbours, and you stand up to say hello, and you realize, your blouse button is about to pop off if you so much as breathe the wrong way, and by the way, you sat in honey... You want to get out of there, because it's going to be really awkward in a second, but you can't turn around to leave or head up the stairs... Sometimes, it is easier to just hang out in the background at first, while you get used to people, and then maybe throw in some jokes here and there, or contribute bits to the conversation after a few visits. Whetever you do, though, don't explain his actions as being shy or say that he doesn't say much. Saying this will actually adjust how people percieve him slightly. When they're expecting that he won't contribute to the conversation, as opposed to not necessarily expecting him to say something, they're more likely to tune him out when he does talk, which will only make it more difficult for him.