Do you still think about your ex?
By serenity34
@serenity34 (26)
United States
March 28, 2007 8:32am CST
You could be married, dating, or simply single. But do you ever think about what you could've been or why didn't it work out or why do you still think about them even though you are happy with someone else? Do they still hold a special place in your heart or does it seem like they are constantly tugging at you? Let me know what you think?
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9 responses
@spiderman05 (851)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
Our relationship was so bad that I stopped thinking about her. I did maybe for a month after the break up, then I forgot about her. Now, I am happy by myself as I have the peace of mind that I missed during all the years I spent with her.
@advicegirl (95)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I think it's natural to think about one's ex from time to time or as years go by because they are part of who you are today and they have helped shape you into this present person through the experiences you went through with them.
Sometimes exes are exes because the timing was not right, they had growing up to do, abuse, distance, circumstances, etc... and when the time is right to reconnect and start a new relationship, you can begin one as two different people who have hopefully both matured and evolved.
However, some exes are meant to stay in the past as their purpose in your soul's growth has reached its end. Each situation is unique and as different people we have grown to become today, you may have outgrown that person you once were and no longer want those same things you did when you were together.
No matter what your situation is or if you are meant or not meant to get back together, an ex will always have a spot in your heart, in your memory as a relationship that was full of positives and negatives. A relationship that has taught you what to change and search for in new relationships.
What is important is to view ex relationships as the past and not live there. To cherish what they have taught you but continue to always move forward in your search for happiness, wherever that may take you.
All the best,
Zuri
http://askzuri.blogspot.com
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
Yes I do all the time... of course she just finally moved out yesterday so the pain is still too fresh.... but we had a daughter together so I am assuming I will always think about her from time to time..... I haven't considered reconciling... she hurt me too bad, but I still feel sad thinking how bad things got....
@jolmartyn (129)
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29 Mar 07
I used to. It was so, so painful when we broke up. She found someone else and I couldn't bear it. The pain lasted for 2 to 3 years. Even after 30 years I managed to find her on Friends Reunited and wished I hadn't it made more pain. I've never been physically unfaithful. She was the first. Obviously I should never had done this.
@blackkatdreamer (1461)
• Canada
28 Mar 07
Of course I do... especially seeing him as a happily married father with one child of his own and 2 step children... it makes me wonder what might have happened if he had grown up when we were dating... but at the same time even if he turned around tommorrow and got a divorce from his wife and said I want you back I wouldn't do it... I've come to the conclusion that we will only be really good friends and nothing more... in other words yes I still love him but as a friend now and nothing more
@NiKe_bOi (165)
• Singapore
28 Mar 07
Well.. after i get over completely after the break up.. i rarely think abt my ex already.. occasionally will thinki abt.. but its more like concern for friends.. i suppose you will know what i me.. special place ma.. i suppose.. after all she once took some times from you from your live so that you will know abt her and she spend some times of her to know abt you.. :)..
