Hurtful words how easily do you forgive

We often say things in the heat of the moment and regret it afterwards. Do we always mean what we say during an arguement? And in the heat of the moment, words can come out in a way that can be interpreted differently by you to what the other person actually means. Sticks and stones may hurt my bones but words will never hurt me - I believe that and try not to get too upset in these types of fights. How long I get hurt really depends on how quickly they apologise too - making up is so much fun

You raise a very good question. Because this is what I have been really experienced as well. I have to admit when my husband and I fight, he says a lot of hurtful but unforgiven words. Though some of the hurtful words I remember and use them to fight back, which to make him undertand or realzie how he hurt me before; but some of the hurtful words are still buried on my mind. Maybe I am a serious person that I just couldn't forget them easily... it will take me more than one week to deal with it.

i know that in the heat of the moment during an argument, i say some things that i wish i wouldnt. my husband also says some pretty mean things to me, but not degrading. he says things that make me think twice. i think its the same thing for him though, that he says things out of the heat of the moment. even though i get upset at some of the things he says, i have to understand that he probably didnt mean it, just like i dont. once we have made up and are ok with eachother, i dont hold it against him. i mean, i do, but not in a way that he can sense it. i try my best to get over it soon. i dont want to have another big fight over something that i know was said out of anger and not actually from the heart. i know there are too many times that i talk before thinking, so i have to understand that he can make the same mistake also.

I think we are humans so some differencer are always there so take it light.And i too take it light.