How long should one wait to pop the question?
By Penfencer
@Penfencer (297)
United States
March 28, 2007 12:42pm CST
I'm curious to see people's viewpoints on this, as I've had friends get married after a few months of dating and some that have been dating and still aren't even engaged. Do you have a set time that you would wait? Or just do it when the time feels right? Have any women here made the proposal, or always the man (since that seems the tradition)?
Personally, I'm of the opinion that one should wait at least six months or a year before asking someone for their hand in marriage, preferably after living with them for a while.
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@Penfencer (297)
• United States
30 Mar 07
What's that about leapyears? I haven't heard anything to that regard. Could you explain?
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@xlyingxwhispersx (721)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I dont think there should be a time frame. I know that my fiance is the one, and I seriously knew that a week after starting to date him. Most people say this to. They know that certain person is the one. I think you should get married when you feel it is right in your heart! =]
@Penfencer (297)
• United States
28 Mar 07
That's a good point. I'm fairly certain many of the answers will be along the lines of yours, though I'm also wary of the idea that one is instantly certain when they meet the person they're going to marry. People often fool themselves into thinking someone is "the one" when it turns out to be the opposite. Thanks for your opinion!
@Giggles88 (542)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I think at least a year sounds about right. I wish I could be the one to ask my man but I'm too much of a chicken. I think if you've been together for too long without proposing rhat someone in the relationship is going to start to give up on the relationship. You can't just be boyfriend/girlfriend forever. So I think that if you wait over like two or three years that is a little too long to wait.
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