Should the guy ask her parents before proposing?

When I was young, my father was under the seriously mistaken impression that was going to happen when I decided to marry. What a jerk. I could NEVER respect a fellow who would ask one of my parents for permission to marry me. My son, however..the one in California....asked his girlfriend's father about marrying her. For me, it was an indication that my efforts at NOT indoctrinating my sons with my view of the world had been a raging success! He chose to proceed in the manner best suited to him and I am quite proud of that.

I live in the US and I agree that it depends on the culture of both families. That said, I would be very offended if my fiance asked my father first. To me, this is a throwback to a time when women were men's property and a male had to give permission for all major decisions. If you ask, you should ask BOTH parents and not just the father. Also, to me, it is my decision alone if I marry someone.

I asked my ex's parents for their blessing before proposing... I don't think it is necessary per se, and I would have still proposed even if they hadn't granted the permission, it was a respect thing. Maybe it is old fashioned, and maybe I am just getting old, but I think it is a nice thing to do, but not a necessary one.

Well if you think you still need to then do it.It depends what kind of family and how close you are to your parents.

I think it's really nice if the guy would ask blessing from his girlfriend's parents before he pops the question. It's a sign that he respects them and that he values the people who matter to her.

I believe that asking the parents is important in order to avoid any future embarrassments, however if she accepts the guy, then to hell with the parents...

I think it is a lovely tradition , My hubby asked my father 47 years ago If he could marry me , and he said yes , and joked about getting rid of me . we have been married 45 years now , and I would say yes again if he were to ask me again , go for it and be as happy as we are xx,

My husband and I had talked about gatting married before he proposed, but before I actually got the ring and the proposal he asked my father for permission. He knew that my father was old-fashioned and would respect him for it. And it worked :)

yes, a lot of people still follow that. i think it's proper at the very least. it also shows respect for the girl's parents and it shows how important this event is for you that you really want to share this with her parents. it would also give the girl confidence that you are taking this proposal seriously.

Yes I think that guy or even girl should ask their parents before proposing to some 1...

By asking girl's parents for permission to marry their daughter is justified and it gives great pleasure to both the parties. It is not old fashined. It is a rightful thing in life to do. Blessing of elders will have its own effect in future life. People, now a days, think differently but the fact is blessing of elders definitely protect youngers from many evils. Blessing of elders make the younger to think in the right manner as this fact cannot be scientifically proved but it is a fact. When confession is done, people feel they are freed from the sins, they have committed. When you accept the "confession" why you should not accept "Blessing of Elders". Taking Blessing of elders before marriage which make the married life also happy.

If her family seems like the traditional type or if she seems like the traditional type, then why not. Cant hurt. I think tradition is cute, and something like asking her parents before proposing is respectful. Best of luck when you decide to pop the question!

well it depend on parents if parents will agree with your choice than its ok otherwise you should tell them first

My fiance asked for my dad's blessing before he asked me to marry him. I think it showed how much respect he has for my family and that he wants to be a part of it. However, alot of the time people just aren't as close to their family. I think in those situations it may be a tad silly to call up the fam she occaisonally speaks to and you may have never met. So, I guess it just depends on the family and your girl. But, let me tell you that when he told me he had already talked to my dad I started crying my eyes out, because it made it that much more real and serious to me.

its still working here in our country to ask permission from the girls parents its our traditions and values to always do that in terms of marriage..yes it is a bit old fashioned ..

I think its a good thing to ask. Personally its a lot of respect to ask the parent before you ask the girl. So yeah. I believe I would want a guy to ask my dad and mom before he asks me. I think maybe dad over mom but both is good.

i like that tradition. yes it is stil done here in our country. though with my experience i was given a proposal first before my husband asked from my parents if he could marry me.

Yes, if she decides not to marry you this time, then she could ask divorce later on if her family really "disagree" you.

It all depends on from what background your beloved is. If he or She comes from a traditional family it might be better if you ask for the parents blessings as it will help to show yourself in a better light. It might also help in getting yes to the proposal. Sometimes parents feel offended if such an imporatant decision is taken at their back and might oppose the marriage.

I am one that thinks the guy should ask the parents. It shows he not only respects his girl but respects her parents as well. It is not really asking for permission as it is giving thanks where it is due. If it wastn't for the parents hard work this guy would not have the lovely girl he has. He should at least say thanks! This is one way of doing it.