girls paying the bills for date..?

depending on the thinking of the male, weather they are the 'big man' type or those who likes pride type or those opened minded type.. A 'big man'type and someone who's got lotsa pride, will surely foot the bill as they think it's degrading to themselves or ungentlemanly for a gal to foot the bill.. But for an open minded guy, it doesn't matter who foots the bill as long as everybody had fun and enjoys the day.. After all, money is earned to be spent.. But however, as a guy, always take the initiative to say to pay, watever the lady wanna say, it's all depending on the situation :) hehe

i believe that once in a while, a girl should share. Yup! you are right ^_^ i really appreciate it every time my girlfriend shares in paying the bill ^_^

I think whoever asks the other person out should be the one paying for the date. Otherwise, it's like giving someone a present and then making them pay the tab.

When it's the first date, I think whoever asked should pay. But after you've been past a few dates, you should either share or take turns. I figure once it's starting to get more serious you can equal it out and take turns or at least pay for part of it. A lot of guys try to pay for EVERY date, but then go broke! I just think it doesn't make sense for the guy to pay everytime once dating has become more of a serious thing for you.

Hi charly! I think on the first date the guy should pay the bill he should impress you though you must offer to contribute- how lucky he is she dated you right? He will not ask you for a date if he does'nt have money he will be afraid you too both end up washing the restaurant dishes if he wont pay the bill Lol. Seriously speaking on the first date he must shoulder the expenses, but charly bare with me as etiquette don't order too much more then the host ok? You must not order a higher amount compare to the one who treat you. After a series of date then maybe its your turn to pay its like a give and take process. its too shameful if we always let the guys pay the bill not unless he is really that rich....

Honestly I don't think it matters. I think in this more modern world we all get caught up in the traditional reterics instead of just living. Just enjoy your time and don't worry about who will pay for what. I say do whatever feels right at the moment.

The tradition is the men to pay. But it depends of some other factors. If they are not so closed and she is still not sure, it`s allways better to be prepared to pay your part of the bill. If he is in bad financial period or she just likes to spoil him- sometimes she can pay the bill. The honesty and modesty are wellcomed here. if before the date the boy says that he has no money /or less money/, but he likes to have a date with this girl- it will be very kind of her to offer him to pay or to be as much simple in her orders as it`s possible. Actually the idea of the date is not to eat and drink very expensive things, just both of them to spend some good time together.

I think it shud be like that once in a while.. It even impresses the men if the women do it.. Men often think when will their girl offer to pay the bill, and when they do, men feel really happy.. And then its off for women for a long time before they shud again pay the bills...

yeah, it does not matter if the couple is already a husband & wife, but if you're just a boyfriend/girlfriends, or just friends, or the guy is courting a girl, i dont think its a good idea for girls to pay the bill in a date. and i've never experienced it.

i agree with you.. i think that whoever initiates the date in the first place, should pay.. but if it's mutual, it's ok to go dutch.. i wouldn't mind if the guy offers to pay once in a while. but sometimes it would get to me, if he does it every time. i don't like feeling to dependent on a guy.. =P

I don't like the idea of a guy paying the bills for my food. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate it if a guy is man enough to offer but I usually insist that I pay for mine and him for his. I don't want him to get the idea that I was only after his money because as far as I'm concerned I am capable of taking care of myself. Some guys though are always overwhelmed by their ego that it would be too much of an embarrassment if a girl pays the bill. What I do is I use my instinct to distinguish this egocentric guys from the not.

well, since i date a girl and i am a girl, we can't fall back on the 'boy' always paying.. we tend to pay if we ask the other person out. if i say lets go to dinner and a movie tonite, then i'm paying, because i can't assume they will pay. if she says lets go to ?? then she pays... its all about comfort level, but i feel the one who asks should pay. so if the girl asks the boy out, then she pays..

Ya they can also share the bill but most pretty girls dont do it and they make the guys pay the bill.But the guys also pay with any question and expect other things like love with the girls so all are compensated

well... maybe sometimes but not on every date. it depends, sharing would be nice.

it really depends upon the situation. if the date materialized because the boy had invited the girl for it, it is the boy's sole responsibility to foot the bill. there are times when a girl says that it is her treat and invites a boy to dine. in this case, the girl is expected to cover for the bill. when a man and a woman have agreed to eat at a restraurant as they have become both hungry while doing something at the office or had met somewhere accidentally, it is common sense for each one to pay for each consumed food.

when me and my husband was still dating, he paid the bill on our first date, he was trying to impress me and no doubt i really was impressed. But with our dates we share the bills, it is always enjoyable to know when going out that you do not have ti be the burden of your boyfriend. But if the guy has lots of money and can afford it why not let him right?

I agree with your views, but it is no harm...if the girl pays the bill. It would be better to pay the bill by the person, who initiated the date.

I don't feel right, ever, if my girl picks up the tab. I feel like a failure or something, being unable to pay for a measly food bill.

Well..............i believe the guy should pay for the bill.............but in some cases......when the guy is broke.........the girl can pay since at some moments, girl has more money than the guy....................like in the case of my last date

I personally don't like it when a guy pays the expenses for our date. It seems to me that maybe if we would break up in the future, he would let me give back all his expenses and would say to his friends that I'm being too materialistic. :)