I'm depressed, any suggestions.
By SilentRose19
@SilentRose19 (1733)
United States
March 29, 2007 3:22am CST
I think I know that my friends mother is cheating on her dad, however I'm not sure what to do. I can't sleep at night, I'm always thinking about it. Her parents have been fighting lately since she moved out, because her brother's won't do anything around the house. Her dad is a truck driver so naturally he's not around much to help her mother, her mom is always working at a dead end paper pushing job. Her dad treats her mom like an angel, and tries his best to get her whatever she wants even when they have no money. However it seems that she's been talking about having a fb (fool around buddy) on myspace messenger with another man (a gay man). She's been saying how her husband is an butthole and he's just being the same so she's looking for a fb to spend her time with. Her dad found this on the computer by accident and is heartbroken, he doesn't know what to do. He told her and she doesn't know weather to get mad at her mother and risk her mother thinking her dad was snooping around, or to keep quiet. What should my friend do, she's so upset and I've never seen her like this. I'm worried she might become way to depressed, and do something stupid. Please someone help us.
5 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I know that you are very worried for your friend. At this point all you can do is be there for her. There is no need for you to be depressed. She needs you to be strong for her and to help her find happiness in her life. What is happening with her father and mother is terrible. It sounds like the mother is very immature and takes her husband for granted. But that is their problem, not your friends. She has to live her own life as well. All she can do is wait this out and let them work it out.
@subathra (3519)
• India
29 Mar 07
Its quite sad to note that your friends mom is betraying her husband.but i have heard of some cases like this but there is a difference the women finds another man in case of bad husbands.But this is suprising for me.This lady is really sick and forget to understand the real love.For a daughter to face situations like this is really tough and disheartining.you can ask your friend to talk with her mom openly to stay away from this illegal affair and be good towards her father who is a nice man.
@steelmoggy (410)
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29 Mar 07
This is not something for you to get depressed or beat yourself up over.
These people are the family of a FRIEND - not your own family. I know it can be difficult to see friends go through the mill, but you're no use to anyone - yousrelf included - if you upset yousrelf over an issue for which you have no responsibility and have no real influence.
Be there for your friend - be a shoulder for her to cry on, an ear for her to talk to, and someone to give her a cuddle when she most needs it.
But you can do little more than that; let your friend know that you're there for her, and that you'll support her if she needs a friend.
But even if she asks you to get involve din teh rows between her parents, my own advice would be to say no. If you get involve din teh disputes of another family, you will almost certainly end up being disliked by everyone involved as an 'outsider' or 'busybody'.
Just be there as a good and caring friend, and don't unduly upset yousrelf about this. Yes, it's a sad state of affairs, but tehse things happen inside families more often than you think. I get asked about such things frequently and I always take my own advice - 'I'm here as your friend, I'll be a support to you, but I cannot judge the rights or wrongs of this situation because I don't know all the details and it would be wrong for me to intervene between man and wife (or mother and son, brother and sister, etc.)'
Best of luck, and don't let it depress you - this is something that is important to your friend, obviously, but you must consider your own life here.
