Married or Single?
By trish32
@trish32 (1471)
United States
190 responses
@snakelady91 (463)
• United States
18 Oct 06
I would consider getting married, if I met the right person. I am very particular about what I want (and don't want) from a guy. Faithfulness, trust, loyalty, and most of all, someone who will love my son like his own. Until all of those conditions can be met, I will stay single. I believe that would be healthier for my son than seeing a string of guys come through our lives or having a bad one stuck in it. I believe marriage should be forever.
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@trish32 (1471)
• United States
19 Oct 06
You're right to be cautious and think of your son's best interests, too. I, too, believe marriage should be forever. We've had our ups and downs, like all couples, but the fact that we have a lot in common and know that we can trust one another has made a huge difference in how we've handled the problems along the way.
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@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
18 Oct 06
wow, 13 years is a long time. Im only been married for almost 4 years in December.
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@ddsully (1062)
• United States
19 Oct 06
well i was married for 8 years, we dated for about 2 years before we got married. he decided to have a couple of girlfriends on the side and i didnt like that to well..lol..so i have been single now for about 1 year and half. and i have to say i am very content with being single and raising my daughter. as for gettin married again...ahh..im not too sure...i dont want to look too far into the future...my daughter and i are doing great and thats what matters, but you never know what tommorrow will bring and ill face that when the time comes....
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@tinaigalu (234)
• United States
21 Oct 06
verymuch married with 5 beautiful children.
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@akumei1269 (1749)
• India
20 Oct 06
I am not from America . Yet i thought it proper to respond -I am married .
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@trish32 (1471)
• United States
21 Oct 06
Of course it's proper to respond! I never intended for this to be an "American-only" discussion. I was inspired to start this discussion based on the article I read, which referred to the US, but am curious as to how people view marriage around the world. How long have you been married? Do you have any children?
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
19 Oct 06
I've been married almost 16 years..the reason marriage is down is probably because they all want to finish school or they are living together instead because it's not considered the *bad* thing now days. More people are up for just moving in less stressful then getting married and it lets you get to know the person before they put a ring on your finger... you can date someone 2-3 years before you get married and find out more things afterwards that you don't like, like bad habits..lol But if you live with them your gonna find all these faults or things you do like within 6 months to a year...so why get married just to find out you made a mistake? It's just simpler now days to move in together.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
24 Oct 06
Yes it can and some people now days are waiting to hve kids but those who dont and get pregnat right away and then find out things are a mistake.. yep trouble for them indeed...And ejiofor1: I'm sure that if you were as handsome as you say that you would not have a shortage of women knocking down your door everyday and night...and i could bet to say there is not a shortage of women where ever you live because they seem to be more women then men in this world,..... But i hope you do find one soon because then you can stop wasting your time posting this on every topic and every comment..good luck!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
19 Oct 06
maybe he is single but in a commited relationship
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@trulysnuggable (422)
• United States
19 Oct 06
I have been married for 8 years. We have 3 children.
@trulysnuggable (422)
• United States
19 Oct 06
I dont plan on having any more right now, but maybe sometime in few years. Right now they are all I can handle.
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@newmama412 (590)
• United States
24 Oct 06
If you research further, I think you'll find that the percentage of married people isn't necessarily lower, but the rate of people cohabitating and waiting to get married is much higher.
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@trish32 (1471)
• United States
26 Oct 06
I don't think there's anything wrong with people living together and not marrying or living together for years before marrying. My mom and step-dad (I call him my step-dad, but they're not married) have been living together for 16 years and have no plans to ever marry. They make each other happy and love each other, and to me that is what's truly important.
@newmama412 (590)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I'm married, but my husband and I were together for 7 years before we got married.
@bhchy1 (6047)
• United States
19 Oct 06
We have been friends for 12 years and attached for going on 3.. We both have been married before..both have kids..his are 18 and 20 mine are 14 and 23...all girls..there was no step family issues as they all knew each other..PMS on the other hand..lol
Glad your daughter likes the picture...I have found all the kittens homes and miss them. Haven't wanted to change teh pciture because that one was my favorite...
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@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
19 Oct 06
yep, that's my lovey...Graysen, he's 7 months old
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@srhelmer (7029)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
19 Oct 06
I think couples are waiting longer to get married today. It's not like it was 30-40 years ago when people could get married right out of high school and the husband could find a decent paying job. Today, people need two incomes and that usually means both going to college first.
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@EsthersMommy (179)
• United States
20 Oct 06
Its seems like the southern states everyone gets married and has children very young and then go to school. I'm 21, and married with a little girl and that is totally normal. In fact I'm one of the older ones! Most of my friends are married, engaged or wanting to marry.
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@EsthersMommy (179)
• United States
20 Oct 06
We have been married just... 19 months! Our anniversary is March 12th! I just love motherhood - 6 months really is an sweet age, they are so much fun. She has just started crawling and I'll say 'Come to Mommy' and she comes to me, its adorable!
@trish32 (1471)
• United States
20 Oct 06
You're practically still newlyweds. Motherhood is wonderful, as is marriage. Although there are times where being married seems like such a routine, I couldn't truly imagine my life any other way than being married and being a mother (along with working and college full time, no wonder I never have time to sleep, lol).
