20 YEAR OLD LIVING AT HOME
By coppenhagen
@coppenhagen (9)
United States
October 18, 2006 12:22pm CST
Just curious to see what you think about a 20 year old still living at home. She also has a 4-year-old, doesn't pay rent, spends every penny she makes, and uses our house as a hotel. Comes and goes and she pleases, leaves her baby at home with us, stays out all hours of the night and doesn't lift a finger except to wash her clothes. Don't mind helping her out but feel like I'm being used to the extreme. I try to remember when I was young but don't think I was ever allowed to do the things she does.
4 responses
@RandyS (7)
• United States
18 Oct 06
I also have a 20yr old at home but with no kids has one dog and she is awaiting her husband to finish technical training for the Marines we welcomed her to stay with us so they may be able to establish themselves, she does pay rent and helps around the house she is allowed to come and go as she pleases but she also asks if we need her to have someone watch the dog. But he is usually fine unless we have plans to do something that may need her to get a sitter. I do believe you are being taken advantage of as a grand parent/parent you may need to sit down and talk respectfully to her about being a responsible adult.Not to step on anyones toes but this may reuin your relationship with her if this persists to long!
signed:caring individual!
@coppenhagen (9)
• United States
18 Oct 06
Thanks for your response. I seems like your daughter is living there for a good reason and is trying to better herself (and her husband). I will try to sit down and talk to her about everything. Thanks for your response.
@coppenhagen (9)
• United States
18 Oct 06
I agree. But wanted to hear it from someone who is unbiased and doesn't know either of us. Thanks!
@KIMBERLYC29 (267)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I feel like this if she has a child and does have a job first of all she needs to get a job and stay depending on ya'll as her piggy bank and another thing if she wants to live in ya'll house she needs to pay rent or get out and stop using ya'll house as a hotel because ya'll are doing her a favore and letting her stay with ya'll when ya'll are getting older and need ya'll time together without worrying about her running in and out of ya'll house and if she wants to get her own place and do that she needs to keep in mind that it's not only her anymore it's her and her child so she needs to think about that
@trish32 (1471)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I would have to sit her down and have a long talk with her about her behavior, lack of respect for your home, lack of responsibility for herself and her child, and then talk about changes for the future. Write up a rental agreement and make her sign it. And, if I were you, I'd tell her that from now on she's going to have to pay for babysitting if she's just leaving the child with you to go out and party or have a good time.
