mother or wife first???

which ever one was bleeding or on fire would come first lol

I am a mother first. My hubby is a big boy and can fend for himself...my 2 year old cannot. Being a mother and a wife is sometimes tiring to try to do both at the same time, but it is all worth it in the end.

yeah its very tought situation to handle.If kid is small definately has to give attention.Hub has to undersatand that,because kids they know any thing .I prefer kids need .

The answer is obvious. The kid takes top priority, for both of you.specially for you. remember, the kid is the one who needs total attention . Your hubby and all else comes later. Without your attention, the husband will be OK.But not the kid. Maybe, he may sulk for a while. Deep inside, he too knows very well that yo are doing the right thing. And if your hubby does not understand this basic funda of life , then you might as well explain it to him to avoid unpleasant situations later on.

Kid first. Husbands should be old enough to take care of themselves and have patience to wait until you are finished with your child.

as a mother of 3 children and a wife i would have to place my opinion here as your child first..your husband for the most part is self sufficiant, your child however needs your guidance and love as they stumble along the way in life. now thats not to say that your husband doesnt need you or your love he needs both and more but he has the wisdom of patience as a child does not..children must come first as they are pure and will be influenced by the world around them and we as parents mother's and father's must be there to mold them into spectacular works of fine artistry. a mothers love includes time, patience,disipline,fear,understanding and definite trust. there's my 2 cent's!

I'd be a mother first without hesitation...Spouses come and go but my kids are with me forever and since they are still minors they come first above everyone.....

I have to agree with almost everyone here, the kid definately comes first unless it is a life threatening emergency. There is the exception though, and this goes on at my house all the time...My hubby will be trying to tell me something and one of my kids jumps in and interrupts, and it's not for any big emergency. That's when I tell them it's not polite to interrupt, their father is talking they will have to wait a minute. And you're right, it is exhausting to be both, but it's also very rewarding.

In every case the children come first. I'm a fortunate woman because this wouldn't be an issue in my family. My husband is just as quick to jump up and help the kids as I am. The kids are the first priority with my husband as well, and I am happy to come second to their needs.

Mom first! Children need your attention first, hubby can wait.

It is exhausting sometimes to be both, especially when child and husband want attention at the same time! However, I would choose being mom first. Husbands are grown men and can fend for themselves for the most part, you can get back to them on their needs. Children are not so easy to have wait. They need to be cared for more closely and need more attention. However, it is important to make a husband feel needed and wanted as well. It is a difficult balance to keep, but necessary.

there is no doubt that i would be a mom first. yes my husband may need me, but he is a grown man and understands that i am busy. a child on the other hand, might take it harder and think that i am putting my husband ahead of him or her. i want my kids to know that they are my priority in life. nobody or nothing is ever going to change that. i had something like this happen to me, but i was already 17 years old. i told my mom something, and then her boyfriend said something else about the exact same situation. it was his word over my word. he was trying to scare her into believing that i wasnt ready to drive yet. he was claiming that he saw me almost crash on the highway, but that wasnt even true at all. i cried my eyes out when i saw that my mom was siding with her boyfriend. i felt so alone and betrayed. yeah, maybe i over-reacted, but i couldnt beleive that she would beleive him over me, especially when i have never done anything to break her trust in me or to have any reason to doubt what i tell her. i know i never want to make my kids feel like i am not there for them.

I belive it should be equal. u can never be a monther first and a wife later nr can u be a wife first and a mither later . I belive we have to give eual time and important to both depending on the urgency