Should I interfer with my 18 yr old?

I think it depends on the relationship you have with your son. Do you have the kind of relationship where you talk about things like this or everytime you attempt to talk about these kind of things does it seem weird. Your past relationship that you have built with him will determine the odds of him listening to you know. Only you know all the circumstances and therefore this is your decision to make. On a personal note, I have a son also and I have a very open relationship with him where he would come to me for advice in situations like this, therefore I could openly tell him my opinion and he will be open to listen. Listen for sure, follow my advice, not always. But they are young and think they know everything, alll we can do is try to guide them in the right direction.

I think you should intervene. They aren't dating, and it seems she's just using him to get what she wants. He's trying to work a job, but if she's calling him all day long how can he get sleep and feel rested enough to do his job? If he's still living with you (and it seems that he is) I think you need to step him and stop her from coming over to your house. You don't want her there, you can get her tresspassing. Don't let her in, lock your doors. Tell her to leave and if she refuses, tell her you'll call the cops. If she doesn't leave, call the cops. It seems to me she won't quit because she enjoys having your son cater to her every whim.

Before stepping in, talk to him about it. You can causally bring it up. It sounds like he is at a loss of what to do with this girl and would probably appreciate anything you can do to help him get some sleep. She seems like she needs help getting over your son and needs to move on.

I think you should intervene. They aren't dating, and it seems she's just using him to get what she wants. He's trying to work a job, but if she's calling him all day long how can he get sleep and feel rested enough to do his job? If he's still living with you (and it seems that he is) I think you need to step him and stop her from coming over to your house. You don't want her there, you can get her tresspassing. Don't let her in, lock your doors. Tell her to leave and if she refuses, tell her you'll call the cops. If she doesn't leave, call the cops. It seems to me she won't quit because she enjoys having your son cater to her every whim.

I would talk to your son about this before you do anything, you might offer to field his calls when he is a sleep and you of course can stop her at the door, with he is sleeping and doesn't want to be disturbed, this little girl has not accepted that she is history and is working on the assumption that if she continues with her presence he will take her back in a romantic way. Until he gathers the fortitude to make this very clear this is going to continue. so you can at least offer to step in gently and keep her a bay while he gets his rest.

I would let him know how you feel, but you have to try not to sound pushy. That might just make things worse. Is there a reason he keeps his cell phone on? Does he need to keep it on when he is sleeping to get important calls? If that is the case I would prolly let him know that you would be more than happy to keep his cell phone for him in case he gets an important call. If not then there is no reason for him to keep it on when he is sleeping anyway. It sounds like she still wants to be with him and figures if he is spending time with her then she could prolly get him back. Good luck to both of you, I hope it all works out.

it depends how he takes up the things in his life !!

According to me You should first talk to your son first.If there is something between him and this girl left ? Ask him clearly if she is bugging him off or what. AS I can read that he is 18 so i think he can make his own decisions now he is a big boy!! But if he is NOT then you must talk to that girl as your next step try telling her firmly that she is only disturbing your kid nothing else!! So ask her to maintain some distance but firmly. If she don't understand your language then you know the other way don't you.!! BUT go for this only after talking to your own boy first and making things clear in front of you before taking any decisions so go ahead!! have a nice day.

You should talk to him first.....just to make sure he doesn't mind you helping out.If he doesn't have a problem with it.....then I would definately talk to the girl.After all it is your house and she just can't show up if nobody asked her to be there. I've had a very similar problem with my bf son.His ex-girlfriend would call all the time and not just his cell phone....but the house phone as well.He was working nights for a while and she would call not long after he went to bed.I guess he started turning of his cell phone...but then she just call the house phone every 15 minutes. I told him that it was really bothering me and that I thought she should have enough sense not to call when she knew he'd be sleeping.He agreed with me and told me it was okay if I said something to her about it. So the next time she called....I told her to quit calling the house if he didn't answer his cell phone.It still took nearly another month before she finally quit....because after I told her that....she would call and hang up when I answerd the phone. I know that your are concerned about him....but at 18 years of age....you have to give him some respect and talk to him about it first.I'm sure he wil not have a problem with it....if you share your concerns with him.Good luck!!

Just ask your son if he wants you to just tell her that he is asleep if she calls or if he doesn't mind getting up for her. It is hard for us to accept our children are grown but at 18 he is a young man and has to sort this out himself. It sounds like he doesn't actually mind this happening or I am sure he would have told her himself already.

My advice would be to talk to your son first. If he wants you to answer the phone for him so he can get the extra sleep then go for it. What I don't get is if they broke up why she is still so involved in his life?

I realize that I'm late to respond to this and I haven't read all the answers, but my advice is this.....normally I'd say that he is 18 and a legal adult, yada, yada, yada, but he is living in your house. My bigger issue is the fact that she walks in. She is brazen! It is your home and I do believe that you have the right as the home owner, if not the parent of an adult, to kindly tell her that this is unacceptable behavior. But before doing this I would talk to your son and be sure that there isn't some relationship going on that you're aren't privy to the knowledge of. A discussion, I believe, is what needs to happen first. Good luck to you!

i think u should talk with your son 1st.tell him how u feel about it.then ask him to talk wit the gal.maybe she still thinking that she is your son's girlfriend.make her understand the relationship is over so she shouldnt act like your son's girlfriend anymore.friends do have limits too.dun jus alwiz bugging someone oftenly.

first think in the age of ur son if he is not interested, he will not do that but he is doing.on the other side he is losing his health so it is better to talk face to face with ur son and that girl.u try to explain ur feelings then they exchange their's .ok all the best

I think interfering will probably do much more harm, he is 18 and should be able to handle this himself. Why doesn´rt he just turn his cellphone off. If he really doesn´t want her calling then itis just easy to push the off switch. Maybe he is also ebnjoying it more than he might tell u.

sounds like my step son and his ex girlfriend she shows up here at midnight and of course on the weekends when he has money but if he doesnt want to take her somewhere she is with one of her 2 other so called boyfriends, Thsi girl is using him like that girl is using your son. If you figure out what to do about the problem please let me know as i am ready to just shot thsi girl and put her out of my misery.

Hi sunshine4.Your son is 18 years old and must be quite matured so dont do anything he is able to handle her girlfriend properly.You can do one thing that be her good friend so that he can tell you each and every problem related to his friends,girlfriend,job etc.And iam sure that you can be good mom as well as good friend.BUY TAKE CARE

Fristly,you should communicate with your son and ask hime if he still loves his previous grilfriend. If he still loves her, then you should support your son and persuade him to talk with her about their relationship. If he does not love her anymore, then you can talk with that gril and let her watch her behavior. If she does not listen to you, you may find her parents.

I would advise you to ask your son first if he still enjoys his ex-girlfriend's company. If it is alright that he lessens his sleep just to accompany her. Tell him that you are so concerned about how he would feel whenever he goes to work. Ask him if he needs your help to keep that girl away from him. Be observant too. You could expect his reactions more or less.

Talk to your son. Tell him how this is making you feel. Sometimes it helps to have an outside opinion. It sounds like she is not wanting to let go and is going to do anything she can to remain a part of his life regardless of the problems it may cause him.