ex-girlfriend

United States
March 29, 2007 1:33pm CST
Since this website give out good information, I decided to express some feelings to get some feedback. Here we go. Me and my ex-girlfriend have been broke up since September 2006. We were together for 4.5 years. She has another boyfriend now and they have been talking for a couple of months. She told me that they are not serious. I really love her a lot and we still talk majority of the time. I am sure that she still loves me. I don't know what it is but my feelings will not go away for this girl. It has been about 6 months since we broke up and I thought the feelings will be gone by now but they keep coming back. I told her that I hope she could find her way back to me because I still want to be with her and she said that she still love me but she feel that she owe the other dude a chance. She said that sometimes she hope that things don't workout between them so she could come back to me. Does that sound right? Am I crazy for feeling this way? What should I do? Can someone please guide me with this situation because it is tearing me apart?
3 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
You're not crazy, you're only human, a human who believes that love still exists between the two of you. That's absolutely a normal thing, because she tells you that she still loves you. But since you have told her that you want her to come back, you have made your point with her. She has to make her decision. If she really loves you, she will give up the other relationship. If she thinks that she owes the other dude a chance, she should give him that chance to find somebody who will love him back. If I had a current relationship and still let my previous boyfriend hang on to me, I am just being unfaithful to the current boyfriend...in simple words, I would just be cheating. Your ex should make her decision to choose... so you can move on with your life too. You deserve to be happy!
• United States
5 Apr 07
You are exactly right. I do deserve to be happy. However, I cut things off between me and her to help eliminate the hard feelings. Thanks!
@maucute (979)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
It's a long time you've been together with your ex.. I guess the feeling won't be gone unless you really let her go, probably you're still thinking that there might be a chance for you to get back together again.. I think the best way for her to do as early as now is to choose who she's happy with, I know someone might get hurt but it would be the best.. If she doesn't feel any love for the guy or she love you more then let her decide rather than have this guy in her life and him hoping and thinking she really have this feelings for him.. She could just leave the guy because it would look like she's playing with his feelings by then, no matter what a person would get hurt.. I hope this could help you in any way..
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
29 Mar 07
i had an 8 year relationship with a guy before. i broke up with him and i cried for almost a year and thought that i will never love again. certainly, i was wrong. my heart will still keep on beating even without him in my life. and that i should move on without him. i decided not to drag myself down just because i lost him along the way. the good thing was, i gave my heart to open again for someone so nice. and now, i did not regret breaking up with that ex of mine because i just gave my heart to love someone worth of my heart and soul. now, we're almost in a relationship for a year and have been talking about marriage. as for you, don't let yourself cling onto much false hopes. you broke up already with that girl and you should have let it go... let go of her and let go of yourself, too. i mean, move on! there are still lots of time for your heart to heal. she already is with someone. even if she says they aren't that well with the relationship, the idea that she can't live him just means that she isn't interested in getting back to you anymore. just be real to yourself. accepting the truth hurts. i know.. i've been there. but give your heart a chance to let go and love again. take care.