If I hear "You need a job" one more time........

you just have to adjust yeah, when people yell at you to find work, it doesn't help when you adjust for taxes $9.50 is probly more like 2/3 of $18, not half do some things to conserve money, cooking , grow a garden, let him know he is valuable even if not paid as well as he was. also, it can take some time to adjust, you might have to just have one car or not so fancy a car you might have to give up premium channels or things like that experience

Why in the world would he leave a job making that much money for a job making half???? That makes absolutely no sense! I would be upset about that. Considering the area being destroyed by a tornado and making you unable to work. What was he thinking? He definitely should not be crawling you because you are in need of money. It's his fault, that he quit a good paying job for less money. Wow, that is the most insane thing I have ever heard! Yes, tell him how you feel, definitely. But make it definitive and clear. Hon, I would have said something before he made the decision to quit a good paying job! Well, maybe you did put up a fight about that, but he is much more responsible as the bread winner of the family because he knew you weren't working at the time and he still made that decision regardless of the facts. You are an equal partner in this relationship and deserve to have a say in how things are. Take care and good luck!

That is really something you should talk about it and not lay blame any where things happen for reasons so you have to remember that most men feel that women waste more in a day not looking for a job then they do looking for one,and you know they are right most women do not look for jobs they hang out with there friends and goof off and say they looked for a job so be sincere and point out about the job situation and work on it together as a couple and show him effort in trying if you have to copy your application to show him and always ask to speak with a manager that helps you more.Good luck and you can do this together.

It is hard now days for everyone I had a part time job and got laid off my husband makes good money probably 7 dollars more than yours at the moment and we were just talking it is so hard, and we think of two people making 8 dollars an hour working in one household and with 24 dollars a hour in one household we are barely getting by. I am currently working on line doing odds and ends, and have a home business just started this past year slow to start up it is total new around the area. and I am still looking for another job. But yes i would just nicely tell him dear I am seriously looking for a job but you constantly reminding me isn't help a job fall into my lap and just let him know in the nicest way possible that you are doing the best that you can.

Why did he quit his old job to make only half? Unless there is a really good reason, such as he was doing something he absolutely hated and left to do something he loved, then there really isn't a good reason. Tell him to relax, you will look for a job. If you even want a job, then try to get one. But it shouldn't be a fight in your relationship unless money really is an issue. But if it were, I doubt he would have quit that first job.

Tiffsmom You are correct..he is wrong. Do you have children?

Hi there do you think the $9.50 an hour is something he really likes doing compared the $18/hr job? Sometimes you can make all the money in the world and not be happy.Just tell him how you feel about the situation and that its going to take time and you will do the best you can.

Everyday after my husband comes home from work, sometimes he waits, but mostly the first words out of his mouth are "did you find a job". This is very frustrating for me. I have been looking for work since September of last year. He knows how many positions I have applied for and how many rejection letters I have received. I am not sitting on my duff thinking we can survive financially on what he makes. I know that we need the income from a second job. You just want to smack em hard when they keep bugging you.

You need to let him know how u feel about the whole issue. Problems identified they say, are half solved.

i think you must be open enough to your husband so that you can settle together the problem and find ways to solve it. i think there would be a sloution to that if you are much willing to work and work hard to find a work..

UM ya, why did he quit his job? Yes you should talk to him, he as the male is responsible for your family and he sounds like he needs a good shake. :-)

I have to say I think your husband is absolutely out of his mind leaving a job that pays $18 an hour for a job that pays half of that! Why on earth would he do that? To that extent, and plus with the area being destroyed by a tornado, he has absolutely no room to talk whatsoever. He should not be crawling down your neck about it at all, and I don't think you're in the wrong. But the only way to sort this out is to tell him how you feel, otherwise, the bad feelings are just going to fester and cause an argument. At least if you tell him how you feel, then you'll be on an even footing and maybe, just maybe, he may be willing to help you find a job. I wish you luck.

After we moved here, it took me quite a while to find a job, and after three months I ended up taking a horrible job just because my husband was pushing me to work. I don't mind working, but sheesh, and he does have a good job, but we need that little bit of extra that I bring in every week. Maybe you need to sit and talk with him, obviously he is under a lot of stress. Yeah, I know, he shouldn't have quit such a good paying job, then he wouldn't be under such stress, I do agree with you, but I still think you should talk it over with him.

what the hell has happened to your husband.you Should tell him how you feel.

Well, No, it is not your fault that his Income went down in half with his job change. I would be upset with my husband if he ever did this as well. At the same time, I feel it is wrong for him to take it out on you, and should be more responsive, and understanding and give you the time to find something. I feel you need to let your thoughts be known and then go from there. Best of Luck!!

Yes you should go to him & tell him straightaway what all you feel about a job girl. see, now i feel you are in a very critical condition for this job, & you must not loose your patience you should make a statement to him & talk very as soon as you can.don't loose your mind, i just can't tell what he is been feeling about his previous job & about his current job & also i am in a quest that why is he working on a job which pays him such a less amount as you told here. i also feel should also go & look for a job look for your skills which area you are expertise in? which skills do fit for the position which can pay you more? & how fast you can earn to recover from a bad current condition of yours. well, now all of a sudden you need a job, not only is it your fault, you have less money after tornado in February as you mentioned earlier. well, your husband is also quite responsible for your current condition, he not only left his well paying job, but also bugging to take up a job for money.But in order to do everything well you shouldn't say anything to him, you only should go for a work, if you find one. that's all i feel for your condition as you described.you may seriously loose mind. You husband had really well paying job for his part of the area & he quit to go to work making less an hour.

I know that it is hard hearing this, or beeing nagged about it, but i do belive that he is doing this just because he is worried about the future and that i can also understand. It is not easy living on one income these days but as long as you are trying and doing your best I think he should give you credit for it.

Tell him to get off your back and go back to the job making more. Its his fault you are in tight squeeze and something tells me he didnt even consult you before he quit. Hopefully that job is still around considering a tornado's been thru your area.

As a wife, you shouldn't feel "obligated" to work. It is nice if you can financially contribute to the household, but if he was making $18.00 an hour and takes a 50% paycut and complains about not being able to pay the bills while you sit at home and take care of your residence and now have to get out into the workforce because of his decision, then I really feel sorry for him. I think you should tell him that you are looking, but if you don't find anything you enjoy...then tough.

Nope I am not thinking you are wrong at all. My question is why would you go from making $18 to 9.50 willingly....that doesnt sound right to me. When you cant find a job thats a hard spot to be in, I hope you can find one soon and your hubby can get off your butt...that really sucks for you.