seeking a way of love

First welcome to My Lot. I am new myself. Now for your post. First off in order to love someone else you have to start by loving yourself and in loving yourself you need time for yourself to understand who you really are. I have been with my husband for 18 years. I am 37 years old. We all need time apart. We all need time to miss one another and that just makes it so much more wonderful when you are together. Everyone is an individual. You are an individual first. I don't know if you feel the need to be around someone all the time is it love or is stalking. (not saying you are a stalker) But hey we all need our space, our own time. You can run a person off with that type of needy behavior. I can't live without you there every minute of the day type of attitude. I cant think of anyone I want to be around 24/7.

I doubt that it is YOU who is selfish and him who is not. The situation that you describe, it shows that you are not selfish at all. The reason being the fact that you want to spend more time with him, while he does not have time for you, which means that he is not as interested in you as you are in him. However, jumping to conclusions wont be good, so i wont assume anything or conclude anything for now. Just sit with him, and tell him, that you love him, and want to spend more time with him, and that he should realize that. THings will hopefully work out for the best. Good Luck