Discipline: too much or not enough?
By muscare
@muscare (3068)
Australia
March 30, 2007 12:58am CST
My son is 4 yrs old, and likes to test the boundaries. My wife and I don't smack, and find that a slight raise in voice is often enough to get his attention, and we can then talk to him rationally, which seems to be unusual for a 4 yr old, from what other parents have said. However, there are days when I feel like I'm always raising my voice to him.I realise it's a healthy thing for kids to express all their emotions an guess sometimes I forget that. This morning I read in the newspaper that a woman beat her child with a belt, than tied them to a bed. No conviction. What does that do to protect kids from too much discipline?
4 responses
@Galena (9110)
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1 Apr 07
it sounds like you're doing things the right way, and it's really not that unusual for a four year old to listen and understand.
some parents just find it easier to hit them than explain why they are doing wrong.
if an adult hits a child it is because they have lost control.
@londongirl (207)
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1 Apr 07
I smacked my children when they needed it, I said smacked not hit there is a hugh difference, I was always in control and NEVER lost my temper! my friend never smacked her children instead she would just scream and scream at them until they ran away from her laughing!! I have got a very close relationship with both my children, (they tell me they love me everyday) and they have grown into fantastic adults!
@mineswill (16)
• Malaysia
30 Mar 07
Every child is different. Remember the old saying 'Spare the rod and spoil the child'.I believe in discipline and I think using the cane is acceptable. Tying them up is abuse and not discipline.
I think in raising kids, we need to discipline them and bring them up as GOD fearing people.There is no success without discipline.
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
30 Mar 07
I think that is considered as child abuse. I do admit that I sometimes smack my children and raise my voice a lot. But not to the extreme of tying them up to the bed and belt them. It's horrific! We must always set a boundary as to which extend we want to discipline our children. Different parents have different ways but please spare that kind of abuse!!
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
30 Mar 07
I do think the mom is too crude to her kid.Of course we should have some disciplines on our kids.But by no means should we use corporal punishment.Maybe it is useful to a little kid,but there are too many negative effects.Do u think it is still useful when the kids grows up.And do not you think there will be some violent inclination in those kids who were beated by their parents when they were young?
