Why do you ask to be my friend if you don't read my discussion?

i have been confused by this too my friend. I now have a few rules before i accept anyone on my friends list. First of all, i insist that they have either answered to one of my discussions or have launched a discussion i have answered to. Secondly, and in my mind crucialy, they must have posted 100 times. This way i can be more sure they are likely to remain active and not be sat dormant on my friends list. As unfriendly as it may seem, if they dont meet these criteria, they dont get on my list blessed be

I don't have so many friends to have this problem but I understand what you say. If you are friends here, usually means that you like read and post on the discussion. Not always but often. I know that someone here is searching for friends as many as possible but I don't understand why!

i share the same sentiment as you. it annoys me that there are people with (0) posting request for friendship...i mean...why?? just for the sake of expanding the friends in myLot? Good discussion! Hope that it reaches out to those that simply want to add people into their friend's list

Well lucalucky that's a very good question and is one that's asked on here quite often! When I receive a friend request I look at their profile first and then look to see if they've replied to any of my discussions if they haven't I deny the friend request. It's better to keep the amount of friends you have to an easy amount because of all the responses and posts otherwise there's just too much work to do!

we really have to be cautious about taking in online friends. they have to be the kind whom we shall be interested in having some discussions with. it will not be a one way relationship, it has to be a two-way one. she/he finds my discussions interesting as i find hers/his to be, too. thus we exchange words in our discussions and topics handled.

That still baffles me lol..I think a lot of people look at our numbers and see we have posted many posts and feel we will always respond totheire I guess without the need ever to reciprocate..the problem is I can never turn any one away because one cannot tell who want to be a real mylot friend or who just wants to add names to look popular..it really doesn't matter to me any more..I felt like that a while ago..now I just don't care..Yes we have a certain standard for ourselves and a friend is supposed to be one up from just any one on Mylot..but hey..you have one mad greek here lol..I will always be around..unelss I am on a plane or jet lagged in which case I will alert my Mylotters that I will be away for a few days lol. I dounderstand how you feel and relationships whould not always beone sided..but think of the quality friends you do have and that we get paid for responding to other's discussions anyway..even if they don't bat an eyelid about us lol..

I have a hard time turning down friends requests I recieve. But after accepting them I wait a month hoping they will respond to my discussions. But if they don't that's fine in a sense as I can usually answer theirs and make some money off it. If they wish not to answer mine after a few months then I may delete them as I feel its not very proper the actions they lack as far as being decent enough to reply to some of my discussions. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

Dear, I entirely agree with you that members do send request for friendship, but many of them just disappear, they do not post their replies to your discussions. I feel, if I send a request to some members, I must reply to his/her discussion if not always, sometimes...so that our friendship should get stregthened. Good Post Indeed!

what you are saying is both sad and true , here we sometimes tend to forget our friends and its such reminders that makes us happy to be back.