Making Enemies Online

Honestly hun I wish I could get along with everyone, but once in a while I run accross the same problem you do. People get "mad at me" or won't talk to me anymore because they don't like my opinion or answer when asked a question. I am a very honest person and if you ask my opinion your going to get my honest one. I feel the same way ... why ask a question if you don't really want the answer, unless it's what you want to hear? I have had opinions clash a time or two on discussions I have started but still gave them a + rating because they were honest and had fair reasons for thinking that way. I'm not going to punish someone or rate them negatively just because their opinion doesn't match mine. We may have some enemies, but we got eachother in mylot hun *hugs*.

Goodness, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong for having your own mind in things. I have seen your writings and I have not found anything offensive at all. I don't understand how people can hate you for posting something different from them. That's plain immature! :P Anyway I don't have any online enemies. Yes I had "fights". We just exchange horrid words that practically make swallowing acid sound like a better idea. But ultimately one or both parties will get tired and we will move on. There is a Chinese saying that translate to "One mountain cannot hide two tigers". So one or both will just leave that online place in the end. :P

Honestly, I'm aware that I have made a few enemies online. Do I care? Hell no. Why should I have to change my views and opinions to keep someone else happy? I am who I am and if you ask me for my opinion on something, I'll give it, regardless of whether my opinion is the popular one of the day or not. I could care less if people think I'm crude, or obnoxious. I have better things to worry about than who likes me and who doesn't. Those who don't like me I just ignore. Why bother myself with them? My friends know me for who I truly am because they took the time to get to know me, and accepted my opinion on things regardless of whether they agree with it or not. It's a shame more people aren't like that.

I think these are people who have shallow thoughts and are only looking for chocolate spreading words. Just ignore such people. I believe that there is a saying that “One with no enemies has little friends” So if you have many enemies than you will be having more quality friends. Cheers to that.

What I trust is the people I'm not comfortble with are worth ignoring and I do the same. ( short ,sweet and simple )

i nearly made an enemy at another forum... but i had a few on line friends to help.. so i was saved... it was just a pure innocent good morning msg at that forum.. not like your true opinions that caused it.. but an outright, pure innocent good morning... that receive a few "WTH, stupid replies that tel me not to waste msg space.." but come one, its forum, im just saying good morning to my pals only and i get wack rite in the face for being friendly?!?! like i mentioned then, those people have nothing better to do but to be jealous.. come on, i think your so-called enemies had nothing better to do.. they are either not trueful enough to themselves to realise that you do have a point somewhere.. if not, you really hurt them deep as they feel you dont have to be up right too honest and blunt.. they just cant take blunt truth in their face.. only cure for them is put your bluntness in a nicer way they cant really reject or defend... that way they can only stare in space with their mouth wide open! :o haha ;

i think it is not always good to put urself on the throne,what i mean is this you may be right or wrong on any particular topic,what you can do to avoid making online enemies is that you put ur thoughts as completely ur opinion.

this does happen buddy.when there are contradictions between opinions people indeed tend to get offended and this leads to fights.there have been so many times this has happened to me and the best way to go past this is to avoid people trying to be rude or negative.after all we are all here to voice our opinions and if the other person cant respect my opinion we cant help it can we?i simply ignore people who tend to take a cheap shot at me.

Maybe they don't like the way you voice your opinion. I found that if I use exclamation mark, people tend to think I'm shouting and some of them got offended while others would tone down their comments (as if they feel guilty they have offended me). I have read some of your topics and then your responses on my topic, to me there is nothing harsh about them but I never start religious or politics discussions before. But you're right, even if they dislike your opinion, sending you threatening messages is way out of line. I'm glad it's taken care of!

I agree with you totally and remember, no body likes a non conformist, so keep on voicing your own opinions because you can't please everybody.

The online world is really not much different compared to the offline one, you know, which is the reason why people making online role playing games are laughing all the way to the banks with their immense profits. Jokes apart, you find the same kind of people online as you can expect to find offline, but there is one major difference. People tend to be more conservative offline, than online. Offline, can you imagine striking up conversations with perfect strangers? yet this is exactly what we do, when we are online, and this sets the stage for many untoward incidents. We might not really know the mentality of people that exist out here, so we need to take a little care. When answering controversial or biased discussions one way or the other, take care not to hurt people's sensibilities and try to stay as neutral as possible. I know these are easier said than done, especially the last point, but then, you could try. I certainly do so!

Never consider it is enemity. When you can express your views their views may differ. Do not give much importance to these people contradicting your views and never consider you have made enemies. They are also human beings having their own point of view. Take everything sportingly. Your discussion is read by thousand of people all over the world. They have different outlook and different ideas about a subject. Therefore they may consider what you said is wrong but from your point of view it is right. Of course you may be right 100% but they have different view and understanding of a particular disucssion. In view of this please neither give much importance nor consider they are your enemines.

You will never, ever get on ith everyone if you hve opinions of your own. Even if your opinions are straight down the middle, average ones - soemone will still take exception to them if you ask enough people. I moderate a Forum in the UK, and I get to see the online fights that people have that tend to start with the most trivial things and then work up to some real doozies. I myself have had threats of violence, abusive mails, libels against me - and that's for daring to tell people that their behaviour is unacceptable! So, I'm afraid that you'll always get soem rubbish. A friend who can be very forthright in their views pointed me to a quotation a few days ago 'Tact is the art of making a pint without making enemies'. I have to say that I'm much mroe tactful these days than I used to be, and still make my points and hold my own beliefs, but I do find I have fewer people wanting to punch me on the nose. I find that by being subtle and tactful with people, it takes me longer but I now win more arguments, and win people around - I guess the old saying that 'Honey traps more flies than vinegar' works. I'm still saying teh same things, but I'm now less confrontational with people and I've found that's been the best way for me to deal with my online 'enemies' - not to make them in teh first place. As for the ones I already have - I just ignore them and hope that they don't carry on in that way to everyone they encounter!

Maybe you shouldn't take it personally. People are only against your opinions not you. Should take it easy and think everyone is against you. It is maybe your views are different.

I admire you for standing for your opinions and I think its ok and its ok cause you are just voicing out what you feel and think. But heres the catch, not everyone can see that sense of freedom of speech. As far as I can remember I don't have any enemies online but if I would have I think the best way to handle them is just ignore them and let them speak what they feel after all I really don't care.

In a couple of months i have been here on mylot or in other site i naver make enemies and i dont have enemies here.I think those peoples are not openminded enough,if you will join in any forum you must be openminded enough because these forums is about sharing your views and thoughts about the discussions.I just dont mind them if there are people who are very rude and that are not openminded person.

I personally detest being put in a confrontational spot. I always emphasized to all my responders that I respect everyone's opinion. I admit that I tend to be emotional when someone try to contradict whatever I'm posting. But I never retort back any bad comments. I've been with mylot for 2 months now and I think I had aged 10 years here...LOL!

I have the same observation that people like to hear opinions that matches theirs, othewise it becomes an enemy. Enemy? Perhaps it is too strong a word :P It is certainly a good feeling when an idea is reinforce by another, and it just needs some openness to accept another idea. I may not like it, but no, I won't classify them as enemies. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I would give them some time, they will become friends eventually.

What I trust is the people I'm not comfortble with are worth ignoring and I do the same. ( short ,sweet and simple )