Aging Father
By eiffel
@eiffel (39)
Philippines
March 30, 2007 10:48pm CST
hello to all mylots users,i just come up with an idea to write here and the topic is about my father whose at his age of 61,he seems to be very sensitive,gets mad easily and during a discussion it seems he wants he's the best and right,that whatever opinion you suggest its not ok with him and suggest his.Oh,as if were rearing a child,any comments or suggestions on how to handle our father?
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4 responses
@bettyrose20 (997)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Try to be patient with your father. He may be adjusting to old age. Learn to walk his pace. Never have an argument with him. He is your father so be patient with him the way he was patient with you when you was still a child. return the love and care he gave you.
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@GurLee (70)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 07
I agree with you... Be patient... Patient is the key...
My father had the same problem too.. He get mad easily, very sensitive and sometimes he looks so stressfull but i usually didn't know what bothering him.. And it breaks my heart to see him like that...
I like your phrase of " be patient with him the way he was patient with you when you was still a child. return the love and care he gave you." Yeah... that what i should do.. You go girl.. Your father is a lucky person..
We should LOVE our dad, be patient and never gave up on him. God bless our dad :)
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
That's normal for aging people. You must start understanding your father more. Have a big heart. The older the person gets, the more cranky he becomes because he has lots of body pains to cope with. This is in addition to things he used to enjoy which he realizes he is slowly losing like good sight and good hearing and good health, too. When you come near him, ask how he feels. Then rub his back a little, massage his head, neck and chest. That will give so much relief. I always do this to my mom whenever she is around.
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@eiffel (39)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
Yah,ur right! Its just so happen that Im not living with them coz I have my own family,what concerns me more is my mother who is the one dealing with my father everyday.They keeps on fighting petty things,as I observed every time we visit them,thanks God my mother is more patient and understanding.In fairness to my father he keeps quiet when we ignore him,that maybe make him realize his fault,but in the end we always show our love with them.
@mycheang74 (75)
• Malaysia
3 Apr 07
I think most old people are like that. We are still young, we don't know what they are thinking or bothering them, so if possible, try to be patient with him. My father also like to grumble and get angry easily.
@kena_karin (85)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Yeah, I believe that once a person gets older they undergo in this psychological changes perhaps and because their body's metabolism and some cells had come to atrophy and becomes weary and so with some hormonal changes they seem to act in a very queer way.
my father is also getting old he's actually turning 52 this June. He is also becoming hot-tempered, and really sensitive even to minute stuffs! But since I am a Father's girl I get to understand him. Besides when I was very young he also understands and cares for.. And of course loves me above anything else..
I guess its a matter of understanding, now that they are the ones who needed us, its our time to give back to them! We can never pay them back what they've invested on us, but at least give them back their due.
