battered wives

Being a battered wife I tend to agree with you, the men that do these kind of things lack self confidence, self esteem and only pick on those that they know can't defend themselves, I used to pity them, now I just despise them.

You are right , it is about control and nothing else . They attack their wives because in most cases the wives love their husbands and are eihter scared or want them to change so much that they are willing to believe all the lives . I had a friend who used to get beat up all the time and she wouldn't leave because she really did love him . She was scared of him but still loved him . He was always careful to hurt her in places others would not see but one time he beat her so bad that when she showed me her head I wanted to take her to the hospital because it was split open pretty bad and there was blood all over her head . Her hair was thick and hid it really well , she refused to go because she knew they would ban him from seeing her again for a certain before of time for her protection because they did this before and she didn't want him to leave and her be alone with there baby as she felt she needed him to help her because when he was good he was extremely nice to her and very helpful . You just never knew when he was going to blow . These people to some degree maybe do care as he did seem to care when he was not beating the crap out of her but he could not control his temper at all . And in the end you have to feel sorry for the woman who is going through this . Even if you feel she should have just left you don't know for sure how you would react were this to happen to you . Most people are too quick to judge someone else when they have never led their lives to know how they would react and it is much easier to say to leave then it is to actually do something .