does your sister respect you?
@salonisunshine (5)
India
March 31, 2007 5:29am CST
hi people...i have a slightly weird problem...if that is what it can be called....i don't really know whether the problem lies with me, with my sister or with our family in general. to start with, please let me submit that i absolutely adore my sis..i love her loads and i am extremely proud of whatever she's achieved...the thing is my sister, younger to me by 3 years has always been the happening girl of any social circle that she belongs to..whether it be school or college or family friends. she has a great sense of humour,a superb athelete, and is a good cook .she has been an office bearer at various positions in school and college. i on the other hand am reserved, cool, a bookaholic and am not into sports at all...instead i love surfing the net, exploring cultures, baking, reading writing and other comparitively quieter occupations. and as far as studies or looks are concerned i guess we're both equal.well off late i have started to feel that my sister whether consciously or unconsciously has developed a kind of a superiority complex over me.....its not that she taunts me or flaunts herself all the time but i do feel that she looks down upon me as a 'loser', some term she and her pals have coined only coz i'm a much quieter person and have not as much won sports medals or office brearer badges and all at school. don't get me wrong..i'm sure she loves me as much as i love her, plus i'm not jealous of her at all, and i definitely wish her the best in life..but all the same i do wish she would show me a little respect and not act as though she's the mighty queen of the universe and i'm amongst the lower 'loser' classes..at times i have to tell her quite adamnatly that i'm her elder sister....she tries to dominate me all the time....one instance i even asked her,"why do you act as though ur superior to me/" and she replied" thats because.." and she stopped mayb coz she didn't want to hurt my feelings....i'm proud of my accomplishments....but what can i do to change her attitude? i acnnot expect any help whatsoever from my parents...they simply wudn't understand
3 responses
@asherah (104)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
Good Day!
You're sister is still young I guess. Her achievements have made her feel that she's a Queen right?! I guess it's because of the people around her. They influence her and tell her that she's the goddess. Maybe that's why your sister thinks that she's the achiever and not you.
Doe's your parents treat you equally. Have anyone in your family appreciated your intelligence of your interest?! If not, that is one of the factors. People tend to admire those who are outgoing than those who are extraordinary but quiet. People with confidence are more attention grabbing that those who are nerds. Just prove yourself to her. Try to be an achiever, not in sports but in fields where you excel. Alright?!
God Bless. :]
@jnetkris (213)
• United States
31 Mar 07
hi =)
i am the eldest amongst our family, i am in a position in contrary with you. I have a sister who feels that she's inferior but even once i didnt dare to feel her that way.
Even if you asked her. And we cant deny that there are really some instances wherein our talent or skill is more needed than others. which sometimes result to some people say their observations and cant help but compare us.
anywys, what i only mean is that why wont you talk to your sister, whatever happens she is you sister. As you said she havent tell you yet that you're inferior to her. aight? maybe it just how u feel.. And we have to understand its an evryone of us has its own individuality.
maybe as of now some didnt recognize what you are doing yet. But dont let them affect you. You have your own life with own talent. So dont let anyone look down on you, and dont let yourself feel the inferiority =)
let your sister do whatever she excels on doing as long as she's not stepping on you *as in confirmed =)*, and you do whatever you think you love and excel too.
take care =)
@fatteh_kateh (187)
• Australia
31 Mar 07
How old is your sister? It could be a phase she is going through. I have to tell you, you are very lucky to have a sister! I have a sister but she has disrespected our family numerous times, got us in debt and lied. Have you tried sitting her down and asking her if anything is wrong? Maybe her change in attitude is because of stress. who knows, It may not be personal! Try taking her out for cofee and talking to her casually about whats going on in her life, she might suprise you with some answers you are looking for!
