hateful sisters
By Lavera1
@Lavera1 (896)
United States
March 31, 2007 12:46pm CST
I want to know why some sisters are so hateful and evil towards one another.
I have a sister who's five years my younger. In my day the elder chilren were given the responsibility to be the govenors over the younger kids.
But I didn't have the heart to rule over my younger siblings as I had been ruled over by my elder siblings. You know with belts and scoldings and threats. I treated my siblings as I wanted to be treated with kindness and understanding and respect.
So when I was a young woman in my early twenties my younger sister offered me a marijuana cigarette. I wasn't that experienced in the use of marijuana. So I accepted it and went to my boyfriends house and smoked it.
I shouldn't have done that for I became very paranoid and suspected my boyfriend of trying to kill me by poisoning me. And after pleading with him a while I finally sneaked out of his place and got in my car and drove myself home.
I also shared the cigarette with another woman and learned that she'd gone home that evening and seriously beat up her younger sister and put her in the hospital.
That was a horrible thing to have done. If my sister had planned to hurt me she actually cause pain and physical suffering to another innocent person.
All these years later I still remember what my younger sister had done to me and I admit I can't forget about it but I have forgiven her.
And to put your minds at ease, no, I don't engage in any drug usage now ever since 1978.
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8 responses
@girish_aarthy (68)
• India
1 Apr 07
one sister may be greed of another for anything done by parents to the other sister. its usual with twin sisters as well. ladies generally look at the other person even if they are possessed of everything.
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
i have no idea how sisters could be like this to each other, my sisters and i fight like heaps, but we dont actually bash or hate each other.
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@Lavera1 (896)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Yeah, that's all right to disagree and argue. But in the end the love and caring will always prevail in a normal sister relationship. The hatred is torment, Meljessxena. Especially when that same sibling teaches her children to dislike you also. It just continues on from one generation to the next.
@Lavera1 (896)
• United States
1 Apr 07
That's so wonderful that you have a beautiful relationship with all three of your sisters. I also have three brothers. But the two older ones don't get along. But I don't want to get into that.
I know that the parents have a lot to do with the relationships between the siblings. I've always taught my children to love and honor and respect one another for they're the only ones that they have.
My two older daughters have a loving relationship and I'm so happy for that.
@seamonkey (1976)
• Ireland
1 Apr 07
That sounds like a truly horrible experience!
My mother and aunt have a not so nice relationship similar to what you describe and I think their parents fueled it. I know the older one really resented having the younger tag along all the time and still does today.
I am really lucky. My sister and I get along very well and she has always looked out for me. I try to do the same for her. Am I really in the minorty on this one?
@Lavera1 (896)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Are you truely in the minority so far as loving sister relations go, Seamonkey? I dared to believe that so many sisters didn't get along. Wow! that's truely shameful. I guess that's another reason that women don't have good relationships among ourselves either.
You are truely blessed to have a wonderful relation-ship with you sister. God be with you and she.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I have an older sister who thinks it is her job to run everyones life for them. Should you decide not to do what she wants she gets very angry.When she gets mad she does things like call social services on you to report abuse or spreads nasty rummors about you.
I don't think that you can blame it on which order you were born in. I believe that it is a personality flaw in which they have.
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@ddlaurie (132)
• Canada
31 Mar 07
I also have a hateful sister who is 13 months younger. She was able to have children I was not. She used her kids against the world. My Grandparents gave her everything,(we lived with them)She recently married an Internet man, who in my opinion should not be able to breath, he helps to fuel her bad temper and bad attitude. I do not know how kids raised in the same house or environment cna all be so differnet. I to can forgive but not forget. The only saving grace I have is that all the bad things people due in this live they will have to answer for later. Good luck.
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@gelaware (116)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Apr 07
Well probably it is just an intuition of both of you. If shes younger than you then maybe she dont realized that what she has done is just by being to try anything what youngerhoods do. perhaps you can asked or talked to her back of what happened when you did that then you will get your answers! Anyway not all of the sisters or brothers having the same problem as you had! Take care!
