My dilema.To turn back to home or to stay in abroad my country for Love?
By Angelinka
@Angelinka (1410)
Italy
March 31, 2007 3:46pm CST
hello,i would to share you with my problems i got and i really need your advise..I am 22 yars old girl,when i turnned 18 i packed my things and went abroad my origin country.First i went spain,later to hollad,later denmark and now 3 years i live in Italy.I cam back home only 3 times and only for short time.I am so sorry about it,because i have missed my country so much.I missed my friends,my family,studies..just life.i dream my country everynight..you would sy to me,why you dont go home?but there is something that i got in italy..its my boyfriend..he is italian and we live together for 3 years..we are soulmates,we love each other so much...he is everything i got here and only for him i live in Italy..i have learned the language very good,i am ok here...but i feel not realised in the life if i dont live in my origin country...i really dont know what to do...my boyfriend cant go to live in my country,because he got his activity here in italy and he is much older than me so for him it would be too dificult to go to live to strange country...Italy is totally different from Lithuania,like day and night..but i cant live like this anymore..i am so sad everyday...a specially when i think that i cant see my grandmother she is my fa vorite person in the world,shes got problems with health so there is not much time left for her....it really makes me cry...but i love my boyfriend,he gave so much to me...i really dpnt know if there is solution to my problem i am waiting so badly for your answers with advises..kisses
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
It sounds to me like you are badly homesick. Maybe a visit home for rest and reuniting with your family would be a good idea. One thing is for sure - you're in no fit state to make a decision right now.
Maybe once you've rested and gotten into a better frame of mind you can make the decision on whether to stay in your home country or to go back to Italy.
One other solution would be to fly back and forth a couple of times a year between Italy and Lithuania. That way you can spend time with your boyfriend and also spend some time with your family and friends in both countries.
I wish you the very best of luck with this. :o)
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@Graymsqtech (496)
• United States
18 Apr 07
we all get homesick and need some time to recharge. Just take an annual vacation back home and share the good times.
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@Graymsqtech (496)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I think you should take a break and go home to see what you are truly missing. I would then talk to your significant other and see if there is a way for both of you to get what you want and need in life together.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
1 Apr 07
Why don´t the both of you move to your country for a while, or atleast go visit fora few months. My guess is that u are just homesick and just need to spend some time with the people that u miss. Your bf should be able to do that for you as well.
It is hard when u find love somewhere else in the world, coz it means sacrifies for both parties.
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@mrsturner (518)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
Maybe you can start a savings account so that you will be able to go home once a year to visit your family. It would be horrible for you to break up with your boyfriend and move home only to realize that it isn't what you want. When I first moved from home I was 17 and very, very homesick. But. I found that when I moved home, I didn't like living there so much anymore. It was better to live away and visit. I am very in love with my husband and couldn't imagine leaving the love of my life for anyone.
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@faraza (159)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 07
dearest, boyfriends come and go. family stays forever. they are in your blood. if your boyfriend realyy loves you, he will find a way to be with you. you know the saying .. if the love someone, let him go. if he comes back, he is really yours. if not, he was never meant for you in the first place. if you can leave your family for 3 years, i'm sure you can leave your boyfriend for a while, for your family. ask your family what they think about your situation. after all, they are the one who will be affected.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
31 Mar 07
It sounds as though you are terribly home sick. I think you should go home for a visit and spend time with your grandmother. It is very important for you to be there for her. You seem very close to your family. I think you should make more frequent trips to home if possible. I am sure if you explain this situation to your boyfriend he would probably be able to advise you on what to do and possibly be more supportive and help you through this time of sadness. I hope this helps and that you are able to find a happy medium between living in Italy and being away from your family. Take care!
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@TheCatzMeow1 (579)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I'm not sure what to tell you other than to follow your heart. Maybe you need a trip back home to make you feel better. It's a tough decision but you're the only one who can decide what you need to do. If your heart isn't in Italy then do you think it's possible that you don't love him the way a soul mate would? Without knowing you personally, it's hard to give any sound advice to what you should do in this situation. I wish you the best in finding your happiness!
@InfiniteAbyss (10)
• China
1 Apr 07
it seems that you got a dilemma.....it is a hard decision between boyfriend and family indeed,in one side is everything of your life ,in the other side is your only relations in the world ....however,i suggest just following the feelings from the bottom of your heart,which is the first thing you wanna do....if you miss it ,you will probably be sad for a life and i think you don't wanna do that .....in addition ,if your boyfriend really love you ,he will do everything as he can to make you happy not sad and so do your family .....so, whatever decision you make ,both your boyfriend and your family will embrace you .......and then ,the most important thing is your feeling .....just chill out and listen to your heart .
