Housemaids
By netski_15
@netski_15 (423)
Philippines
March 31, 2007 4:19pm CST
We have a housemaid, since I am working and my hubby will be going back to Canada plus the fact that we have a baby. How do you treat your helpers at home? I guess we've treated ours very nicely that now she is abusing us. Not in a literal way though. She is not doing her job properly. She wakes up late. She watches T.V most of the time. Worst of all she can't even take good care of my baby. I want to change her but it is so hard to look for helpers now a days. My question is how do you discipline your housemaids? How do you treat and confront them?
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5 responses
@theempress (408)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I grew up with a maid in the house. It is because my parents both work. And yes, they do change after a while of working with you. Especially when they figured out that you are nice. The best thing to do is to confront them, after all you are still the boss.
@michele_villasenor (624)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I think our family is blessed to have a history of very good helpers. I think the key is to lay down the cards from day 1. Tell them the rules, restrictions and your expectations then ask them their expectations as well. Tell them how you want things done and that you would appreciate if they do things that way and if they know of a better way they have to discuss it with you first. Recognize accomplishments. It will motivate them to perform their duties well all the time.
Don't treat them in a way that you wouldn't want to be treated. Treat them like members of the family. Talk to them even if you don't have things to ask or instructions to give. Don't ignore their existence. Make them feel welcome in your home but remind them of the reason for their being there too.
@marjonelle (798)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Yes some housemaids abused us when we are too good to them. In your case, it is always the best to talk to them in a nice way. Don't scold at them because as you said, it is hard to find housemaids. I treat my househelp/nanny like my own family and I know she feels it that way. Sometimes when I feel that she's forgetting to respect me already, I just let her remember that she still have to respect me. Then she will just smile at me but I'm getting what I want.
@rogen_andrei (638)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
My mom does change our maid if she find them abusing our kindness already, like the stuffs you have mentioned. Maybe the best thing you have to do is to talk to her once and for all. Tell her that she has to do her job properly if she wanted to be treated the same way. And if she still doesn't do things expected of her, then you can start being a little strict to her. Sometimes you just have to draw the line between being kind and asking for the right service.
