would you kick out your adult child for coming in at all hours of the night?
By PlanetProzac
@PlanetProzac (166)
United States
April 1, 2007 5:04am CST
I have a daughter that I am giving a second chance to. She has had some problems with meth for approximately four years. I do not notice think that she is using meth again becauese she has an appetite and goes to sleep when she gets home. She may have moved on to different drugs such as alcohol but the problem is that she gets home at 2:00 a.m. or 3:00 a.m in the morning. This is very annoying to me as I live in a small house where I can hear just about everything. I also have a Dachshund puppy that barks everytime she hears my daughter come through the door. I am just tired of being awakened at all hours of the night. I am torn between trying to help my daughter stay away from meth and trying to get some sleep. My daughter is almost 22 years old. We are getting along okay in other ways but she is very inconsiderate. Should I ask her to move out knowing that she may be living on the streets if I do?
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
1 Apr 07
You can't protect her forever, and even if you tried, it would be unsuccesful. She needs to make this descision on her own, I would tell her, if you come home past ___ O'clock, you can no longer live here. Be strict and firm about the rules you set up for her. Yes, she may end up going to the streets, but it's her choice. You have to start letting her face the consequences for her own actions, if you don't, she will be living with you until she's 30 something, maybe with a couple of kids..It's hard to use 'tough love' but in this instance I think it's appropriate. Good luck. Also, get one of your friends to help you, they can encourage you and remind you that you are doing the right thing for your daughter.
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
1 Apr 07
It might be hard but she needs to live on her own and learn to take care of herself! She can't depend on mommy to help her out all the time. I suggest giving her a time frame to find another place to live, tell her you want to help her out and get her own place and learn to be responsible for herself. I know it will be hard, I had to move back in with my parents after my first marriage fell apart, I was a single mom with a little baby and my parents let me move back home but I had to pay rent. It helped me realize that I can't just stay there and free-load off of them. I moved out as soon as I could afford it just because I wanted my own space, but them charging me rent kept me responsible for myself.
