What happens when you deny a friend request?

Nothing will happen. Unless they remember to check back, they won't even know. When you deny the request, it would be as if the request was never sent in the first page. After the request was sent, he will see on your profile page that it is "request pending". After you deny it, it will be back to "add a friend". So if he is tracking, he will know you have rejected him.

I'm in the same boat with you rx4life. It's hard to know why someone wants to be your friend if you can't tell what their interests are or see what made them select you as a friend. I've only been here a month, but it was getting easier to tell with the old profile layout. Because I have quite a few requests, I started a discussion, asking that they introduce themselves before asking to be my friend, just so I could find out why they found me interesting enough to be friends with. I hadn't quite figured out that some discussions roll way back onto the list at some point, so I don't know if it will work or not. Time will tell I suppose. hmmm, just had a thought.... maybe I can approve the request and then send them an PM with the link to the discussion. Then it wouldn't be lost. :D Glad I took the time to respond to this one, it let me figure out one of my problems, by suggesting something to help yours. I just love MyLot! I'd like to know if you get any other good suggestions so I eagerly await the responses you get and will be stopping back often. :)

They get no notification. If they were really interested in your friendship and they will check their friends list, they'll know.

I do not believe that the person is notified and if people are like me, they don't get too concerned if someone doesn't add them. We all add friends for our own reasons such as common interests, location, etc...so it isn't a personal thing. I wouldn't worry about it, just deny or accept and move on. There are over 84000 people here, we certainly can't have them all on our friends list...LOL !!

I'm not sure if it shows them a notification or not, my guess would be no to avoid tension and akwardness between users. But you shouldnt be worried about denying requests either way because you have good reasons to deny them. If they question you tell them you dont think they are active enough. But def. dont worry about hurting anyones feelings or anything, I bet if you check they already have a bunch of friends. If they dont then that prob. means a lot of people denied them.

yes they will be notified that you denied them. I am pretty sure that you wont hurt their feelings. I accept all the friends i have and then sometimes i go their there posts.

I was worried about it like you because I have only denied one person and it was by accident I am glad that people do not get the you were denied sign. I sometimes add people then find we have nothing in common or they don't post I have deleted alot off my frineds list due to this, I have had one person everytime I delete them ask to be friends like within a day or so that happened 3 imes same person so I now just leave them on.lol Well I hope you got the info yo needed from all these great posts. Well good luck and happy posting.

As far as I know people who were denied in their request does not recieved any mail notification of the rejection. I guess it is better this way.... to keep everybody in harmony. For me I always add anyone who wants to friended me. Everybody is welcome as long as they don't destroy my reputation.

I'm not really sure how that works. There was one person that asked me to add them and when I checked their profile then I saw that we didn't really have anything in common so I denied the request. I would keep getting requests from them over and over everytime I denied them. Then finally they stopped.

no...i dont think the person gets a notification about that you have denied being his or her friend....i mean,...i get loads of requests from ppl whom i dont know...and i have to cancel them but that doesnt make them come back to me and tell me that i am jerk...

Nothing happens lol. they don't get a notification that their request was denied, and they'll only find out if they go into their friends list and check specifically to see whether the request was denied or not. There is nothing wrong with being picky about who you accept or deny. I think we all are to a certain degree and there's really nothing wrong with that. We can't all have everything in common with each other at all times. Don't feel bad about denying requests. It's a part of what makes us all different that we don't accept everyone and anyone who sends a request.

Since I'm relatively new here, I'm just accepting friend invites because I want to build a group that may help me in mylot. You've got a point there because I see some people who just receive but rarely give support to their 'friends'.

I really don't worry about it. If I choose to approve or deny a friend's request. Even if I did get a response from them -- It's not going to change my thinking either.

I have spent a lot of time to learnt how to say no to my friend. I was afraid to see my friends' disappointed face. I was afraid my friends would not help me any more when I was in trouble. But some things I really did not want to for them or some things broke my principle. After many years, I found that refusing is a kind of normal thing. If you have a strong reason for the refuse,you can speak out. if you have not a forceful reason, you can just say 'Sorry I cannot help you,maybe next time'.

well i dont think much happens. when you are requesting someone as a friend on mylot dont always except the answer to be "Accept". It can many a times be "Deny". If someone denied my request i would feel anything. And i think thats the way to go.

Waaah I denied friends request twice I dont like ppl who use se-xy female photos as their avatar. It looks inpolite for me I nevercheck who requested frineds. But I dont think they will accept notivication

No when you deny a friends request you do not receive a notification they just do not end up on your friends list. Yes you are right and I have just sent out a discussion talking about this and also other friends that I have accepted that just do not have enough information in their discussions so I cannot accept them as my friends due to them doing this. You are always welcome rx4life and of course you will be one that will definately stay on my friends list as I know that you put more information in your discussions and also respond to my discussions and I thank you for that have a lovely day!!

When you denied a friend's request, that friend won't get any notification unless he/she check your profile again to see if its set as "pending friend request" or "add as a friend." We're in the same boat with this friend request dilemma. I seriously doubted the true intention of most of the friends who wish to be on my list. Some of them will request for my friendship and after I accepted them, they will magically disappeared or became inactive. Others are active but they forget to do their duty by partaking in some of my threads. The most irritating one are the spammers. I have recently denied one friend's request and after a day, she requested to be on my list again. But no activities nor movements can be seen on her. I really can't decipher why some mylotters will go to the trouble of requesting themselves when they are not helping and supporting me. Just keep looking for members whom you feel can help you. Good luck!!!

Nope no notificaion! haven't received any! I just keep track that's all! Have a nice day!

ya u r right... surely it will hurt others heart.may be they will think i never respond to his discussions,but no use...he can't do nothing agaist u...here mylot gives the right to everybody for choosing their friends like life...till now i approved only..