How do you get people to like you
By gramskaren
@gramskaren (661)
United States
April 1, 2007 7:10pm CST
and be your friend? I have often wondered that. My husband and I both work the nite shift and don't get out much because of our hours and we also have a greenhouse we work at that is ours. It takes up so much of our time that there never seems to be any time to go out and meet people and have some friends to call on once in awhile. I sure would like some to call on once in awhile. I do have some that live like 5 hours away but that is to far to go on a weekend. I have met a lot of wonderful people on the internet but that is not the same as a person to person friend. Someone you can confide in and get to know and who you can call on if need a shoulder to cry on. So how do I go about meeting some friends on my busy schedule? It might get a little better since I took a second job on and can meet some of the public face to face. Have never done it before so really like it. Some advice please and tell me if you too have this problem.
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8 responses
@malouasuncion (555)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 07
I think here in this world it is hard to find a true friend. We meet or have a lot of friends but in times of hardship do you think you could cry on them? You must be careful in choosing a good friend.
@gramskaren (661)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yes that is so true nowadays. I do have a couple I can call but not the same if they lived closer. In times of hardship you know who your true friends are.
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@lifesmilester (103)
• India
2 Apr 07
a smile on the face, being politen respecting someones feelings can make frnds faster.internet frnds r the best ones bcos u can talk to them easily, express urself n i think i have got all too good frnds here.so good that i love pasing my time with them.its all fun n feelings.
@gramskaren (661)
• United States
3 Apr 07
yes this is all so true. I do my best at the smile on face too. I love my friends on the internet. Someday may meet some in person would be great.
@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I think most people have the same problem. As people get married and get busy, it is harder to keep a friendship or build new ones. I have some work friends and we get together once in a while but my true friends now are my husband and family. I had friends I thought I would never lose touch with but it just happens and I stopped worring about it.
If you really want to go looking, attend a church, join a local group, or just start taking walks, it's a great way to meet people.
@gramskaren (661)
• United States
2 Apr 07
You are so right about husband being your true friend. I feel he is my best friend. We are so busy when summer comes don't seem to get much accomplished like we would like to. Someday maybe will change.
@skremeier (8)
• United States
2 Apr 07
You should try having a block party. My wife and I threw a block party to get to know all of the people that lived on our block in the new addition that we moved into and it work great. Then you will get to know people that our around you.
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@AmbiePam (93926)
• United States
27 May 07
Try baby steps. If you kind of like your next door neighbors then invite one set of your next door neighbors over for bruch on a weekend or dinner or whatever is convenient for you. A couple weeks later, try inviting the other set of neighbors over. I have met a lot of friends at church, but if you ever have time to take a class at the community center or some place else that offers free or virtually free classes, you usually meet some great folks, and if you are taking a class you enjoy, then odds are they enjoy it too since you are both taking the same class.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
Hello gramskaren. I can understand what you're saying. I've been a very private and somewhat shy bunny in real life. But I was able to maintain my social life to the max. Meeting new acquaintances and friends was pretty much a part of my daily life before.
Everything turned on a 360 degree after I settled down. My social life waned drastically and I found myself losing touch with the outside world. I started to reconnect again 3 years ago after seeing my girls old enough to be left alone. I joined a club that teaches the art of public speaking months ago. I was thinking it will be a good start to learn how to speak fluently again. I've come to know more personal friends through this club.
You might like to join a club in your area too. This is usually the places to meet new persons. I'm fortunate to have a friend here at mylot whom I can trust with my whining, LOL!